Girl strips off for sleazy online pics She’s so smug & I’m skint
SORDID CAREER SWITCH
MY girlfriend has given up her respectable career to pose half-naked online.
She brags that she’s making a fortune. She’s swapped her smart suits and the daily commute for sexy photoshoots in her bedroom.
As well as getting (gullible) punters to pay for pictures and private dances, she’s also signed up to a sugar daddy website too.
One guy has already sent her clothing and cash.
Right
She insists that it’s all the rage. Apparently I have nothing to worry about because our relationship is real.
In contrast, her online persona is all about selling a fantasy. She always enjoyed drama classes at school and this “new career” is purely an extension of that.
I don’t know about this. doesn’t seem right.
I’ve deliberately chosen NOT to check her out online because I’m terrified of what I might see.
She’s very vague when it comes to the details, and I fear she could be simulating sex and putting on tacky sex shows with her older flatmate (who got her into this).
I’ve tried to talk to her mum about it, but she sighs: “Don’t ask me.” She says her daughter has
It always been a challenge. From the earliest age she always did her own thing or threw terrifying tantrums. She dressed like a boy until the age of 12 and they all had to call her Ben.
Her mum says she’s singleminded and stubborn just like her late father.
But how do I begin to protect my girl from going down some very dark alleys?
JANE SAYS: All you can do is warn your girlfriend and appeal to her sensible side.
Make it clear that this change in direction doesn’t sit well with you. Flaunting herself online may seem like easy money but it’s not a game.
She may feel she’s in control but what about her mental health and self-respect? We all know that if something seems too good to be true, then the chances are it is.
The fact that she’s already started receiving cash and gifts from a “sugar daddy” is making you feel suspicious and uncomfortable.
She could be opening herself up to all manner of unsavoury characters or even blackmail?
What is her definition of
“too far”? How will she know when to say “no”?
The idea of her holed up with her flat mate/co-worker sounds tacky.
Just what is the nature of her relationship with this woman? Are the two of them playing you for a fool?
Your girl is entitled to live her life any way she pleases.
If she’s always been headstrong then she may feel that this new career is the perfect fit for her unconventional personality.
But you don’t have to stick around if you believe that this is a step too far.
MY colleague never stops boasting about how well off she is.
Each Monday morning she flounces in, wearing another new outfit, bragging about the fantastic weekend she has just enjoyed.
Apparently, her rich boyfriend can’t do enough to please her.
She’ll proudly show off a new handbag or pair of earrings, knowing I struggle to make ends meet.
I don’t consider myself a jealous person, but there is only so much I can take when I have a mountain of bills to pay by myself.
How do I get her to pipe down?
JANE SAYS: Your smug colleague is either insensitive or cruel.
If she can’t see the hurt look on your face every time she brags about her latest purchase, then you can only conclude that she enjoys lording it over you.
I suggest you speak to your immediate boss and ask to be moved.
Explain that you can’t concentrate while there is so much distracting noise around you.
Obviously, you have no desire to make an enemy of the woman, but it’s not your job to be her audience or indulge her ego.