Spoilt brat fella’s pushing his luck
I CRINGE WHEN I SEE HIM
JUST because he’s successful and earns all the money, my guy thinks he can do anything he likes.
From messing around with other women to buying ridiculous, expensive “boys toys” – he simply expects me to laugh along and indulge his every whim.
The other day he came home with yet another new watch. He has designer suits, rings, and gadgets that he never even wears. There’s a spare room packed with rejected (expensive) junk that I find obscene when so many people are struggling.
He changes his car all the time and thinks nothing of booking expensive trips out with mates and business contacts.
He likes to boast that he’s “spontaneous” but I think he’s nothing more than a spoilt brat.
His father is a self-made man, and he grew up living in great houses and visiting exotic places, whereas I was raised by a single parent in a council flat.
I’m not bitter and jealous – I believe my experiences make me the person I am, but sometimes I look at him and cringe.
He’s not got what my old granny would call “soul”. With him everything is about being top dog and showing off.
He doesn’t care about the sensitivities or the feelings of others.
At the moment I’m particularly angry with him. I’ve just discovered he’s playing around with yet another woman from work – the youngest yet at a mere 22.
I found a lip gloss and pair of knickers on the back seat of his car. I confronted him with the evidence, and he dared to smirk: “You know me.”
Yes, I do, and I don’t really like what I see. During rows he accuses me of being uptight and a killjoy. It’s increasingly hard to love and respect someone so crass – and almost predictable.
JANE SAYS: It sounds to me as if you’ve outgrown your
guy. Presumably, at the beginning of your relationship you found him sexy and interesting.
But the more you watch him in action, the more you realise that you have very little in common.
From his over-consumption of trinkets and baubles to his casual attitude towards cheating and sex with other women, you’re now two very different people.
I suspect you’ve grown up and started to realise that there’s more to life than material wealth and instant gratification. Is his most recent
young woman the straw that broke the camel’s back? Is he capable of change?
Can you forgive him or come back from this? Or has he disappointed you one time too many?
Remember to consider your mental and sexual health.
If he’s not using condoms with his other lovers, then you could be at risk from catching an STI – and there’s absolutely nothing funny or cheeky about that.
Sadly, if he’s incapable of making you happy, then you’re wasting your time.