I’m ready for the thrill of a lifetime FRIENDS & FELLA DUMPED JANE'S FAB ADVICE LINES My girl has no respect for me
I WANT to leave my toxic mates – including my boyfriend – behind this year.
But how do I move on from them without causing drama when our lives are so complicated and involved?
I live in a close-knit community. My friends have been around my neck all of my life. They know my weaknesses and my most embarrassing secrets and continue to bring me down.
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I long to reinvent myself but how can I when I work for my boyfriend’s dad, and my oldest friend relies on me to help out with her sick mother?
I’m trapped. I’m not pretending that my life is terrible – I know that many people have it a lot worse – but it feels as though the clock is ticking and I’ve done nothing to be proud of.
I long to travel, to make mistakes (without being judged or laughed at) and have sex with lots of inappropriate people.
My boyfriend and I have been together since I was 16. He was the first person I kissed and got naked with. He’s cheated on me with all of my mates, plus women he’s met online.
Any time I challenge him for humiliating me and breaking my heart he claims that I only have myself to blame. He can’t help getting drunk and sleeping around. It’s all my fault for being so boring.
Well, I don’t feel boring any more. Over Christmas I witnessed him groping his ex-boss in full view of the village pub and the scales fell from my eyes: he really doesn’t care for me at all.
Now this lion is ready to roar, but how can I when I’ll upset so many people by moving on?
I’m scared.
JANE SAYS: Taking a leap into the unknown is always tough. It takes a lot of guts to turn our backs on the familiar and start again. But it sounds as if you’re finally ready to come out of your comfort zone.
For your entire life you’ve mixed with the same people and now familiarity has bred contempt.
You don’t feel as though your pals, or your boyfriend, treat you with any respect.
Your mates are overly familiar and even cruel, while your boyfriend pretty much does as he likes.
It’s not going to be easy finding somewhere new to live, work and socialise.
It’s highly likely that you’ll experience self-doubt, hardship, and loneliness along the way, but what’s the alternative?
There are other jobs, properties, and communities out there – you just have to be bold enough to find the ones that suit you.
List your options, strengths and dreams. Get someone you trust to encourage and support you.
Dump your cheating boyfriend as you look for a new job and don’t let anyone hold you back.
You’re allowed to make your own way in this world.
WRITE to Just Jane, Daily Star, One Canada Square, London E14 5AP or email jane.o’gorman@dailystar.co.uk
MY girlfriend loves to tell me that I’m “replaceable” – it’s her favourite word. Any time I fail to agree with her or give her want she wants, she warns that she’ll find someone “better”.
I’m heartily sick of doing my best while having her threats hanging over my head. How dare she make me feel bad about myself?
JANE SAYS: You and your girl need to discuss her disrespectful, negative attitude. If she has a problem, then suggest she spits it out, once and for all.
Sadly, if she refuses to treat you with the dignity you’re due, then how do you feel about spending much longer under her ever critical gaze?