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(womensaid.org.uk), talks about the rise in domestic abuse and shares advice for those who are experiencing it or feel at risk...

WHAT IS DOMESTIC ABUSE?

“It’s defined as a single incident, or pattern of incidents, of controlling, coercive, threatening, degrading and violent behaviour, including sexual violence. It’s usually by a partner or ex-partner, but can also be by a family member or carer,” says Dix. “Domestic abuse can include coercive control, which is a pattern of intimidation, degradation, isolation and control with the use or threat of physical or sexual violence. It can also include psychological, emotional, sexual, financial or economic abuse, harassment and stalking, and online or digital abuse.”

While disagreements are normal in all relationships, Dix is quick to ppoint out that abuse is not a disagreement. “Instead, it is the use of physical, sexual, emotional or psychological violence or threats in order to govern and control another person’s thinking, opinions, emotions and behaviour. “When abuse is involved, there is no discussion between equals. “Often, when experiencing coercive control, women may not recognise the signs that they’re in an abusive situation, because this tactic erodes their selfconfidence and independence.”

WHY HAS DOMESTIC ABUSE GONE UP DURING LOCKDOWN?

“Covid-19 does not cause domestic abuse – only abusers are responsible for their actions,” clarifies Dix.

“The pandemic does, however, threaten to escalate abuse and close routes to safety for women to escape.”

For example, support from and access to family and friends, as well as formal networks of support, might be limited. “A recent Women’s Aid survey found that more than two-thirds of survivors said domestic abuse is escalating under lockdown and 72% said that their abuser has more control over their life since Covid-19,” says Dix.

“We’ve heard reports of abusers using infection control measures as a tool of coercive and controlling behaviour. Women also said they felt unable to flee as planned, or unsure of their options for leaving.”

Although a government campaign gives the message that you can still leave an abusive space, despite lockdown, Dix says there are major issues facing services about how they can practically support the women and children seeking safety right now.

It’s important for survivors to know they aren’t alone.