‘ I think I’ve brought home more than a cold from Benidorm ....’
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Dear Janice,
I think I may have caught more than a cold when I went to Benidorm, but I am far too embarrassed to go to my GP as he has been our family doctor since I was born.
I would be mortified going to a sexual health clinic too.
My friend says if I wait long enough it might just go away.
What do you think? Bob.
Dear Bob,
I really hope your friend is not in the medical profession! Given time a common cold will go away but a sexual disease certainly will not, and if left untreated may cause long- term heath problems.
Sexual health clinics deal with these issues daily. They do not judge, comment, or lecture, just advise and help you get better.
However, if you can’t handle a face- to- face consultation, sexual health tests are available online from Boots, Superdrug and Lloyds Pharmacy, as well as others.
I think this is your best option. So, act fast, get better, …… and keep big Bob and little Bob safe in future.
Dear Janice,
Men chat me up all the time and at first, they seem so keen,
( which can be a bit off- putting if I’m honest), but as soon as I mention I have three children under 10, most of them disappear.
Some have taken me out on dates but they were not the same calibre as me.
They had low- level jobs which didn’t pay well, some were divorced and paying huge amounts to their ex, and one was still living with his mother!
I work but being single with three kids means I need someone who earns enough to help keep us.
My friends say I will never find a partner with my standards, but I know I can’t settle for anything less. Why should I?
I put a lot of effort into myself and have many great qualities, so it only seems fair that I find someone who is on the same level as me.
I don’t think it is too much to ask considering I am goodlooking, healthy, fit, and well- groomed.
But where do I find these men?
JH- C
Dear JH- C,
Your description of yourself is akin to a well- ridden mare who is on a mission to find a wealthy owner.
Why should any man pay for your children?
You seem to have it all going for you, so why do you need someone else to fund your lifestyle and your offspring? Where is their father( s)?
Your friends have the mark of you, so listen to them because the guy you are looking for doesn’t exist. Unless he is desperate.
You have met men who are working. That’s a huge tick. They pay for THEIR children, another tick. And as for the guy who lives with his mum, perhaps he has an ex who is bleeding him dry and he has no other option.
Life can change in an instant. What if you got sick, lost your job, or lost your looks?
Would you then be the thoroughbred you think you are? Give these poor mortals a fair chance before you find yourself single, lonely, and ready for the knacker’s yard.
Dear Janice,
My partner and I chatted for many hours about an adventure holiday to Australia this year, so we agreed to start a savings fund.
We have a fair amount put by and are almost at the stage where we could comfortably book this trip, and by the time we are due to travel it will be fully paid.
The thing is, I have found the car of my dreams for sale at a great price and I want to buy it.
I showed her a picture of it and she agreed it looked amazing, but that was it.
I hinted again that I wanted to test drive it, but she just looked straight through me and walked away.
I am in a dilemma because I want to go on this trip with her, but I want this car too. The problem is, we can only afford one or the other.
I don’t see why we can’t get the car this year ( I won’t get it at that price again), and save again for a holiday in 2024.
My friends have different opinions, so what do you think?
Jake.
Dear Jake,
I’ll tell you what I think. Your partner should bail out now, split the savings, and find a partner or friend who is on the same unselfish page as she is. You are clearly not.
She must be so disappointed that the one exciting goal you were both aiming towards has been side- lined by you, and she must also be hurt at how easily you were derailed from your couples plan.
You can either ditch all idea of this car, ( unless you can magically conjure up the extra cash), apologise for being a selfish ass and book your dream holiday, then you might just get away with it if you act quickly.
Or, buy the blinking car of your dreams and give this girl her freedom to move on with someone who won’t selfishly shelve her future plans. If you can flip so easily I wonder how committed you really are to your partner( By the way, Google the word ‘ partner’).