HOW TO LIFT AS YOU CLIMB

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In the moments where you feel secure and generous, do what you can for others without making a big deal

about it. Offer up your contacts. Give time to someone who is stretched. Give a compliment to someone. Do it without any reason, just to be kind. Make a habit of it. This is ‘lifting’ others without expecting anything in return.  When you are not able to help others and on days when you are managing less well, don’t beat

yourself up. This is particularly easy to do if you’ve already bought yourself some credits (in your own mind) by being generous most of the time. Allow yourself to be ‘selfish’ from time to time for the sake of self-preservation. It’s not ‘selfish’ to take time for yourself. It allows you to be more giving when you are feeling more in control.

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In terms of professional ambition, there are two ideas that short-cut

things immensely. First, getting over the idea that a ‘personal brand’ is cringeworthy. (It is. But it’s useful.) And, second, maintaining a consistent, manageable presence on social media that doesn’t make you feel overwhelmed or fake. You can do this by logging on at fixed times or by using an online tool like Hootsuite to schedule your posts. Or you can decide that your real strength lies in promoting others on social media. Be someone who highlights the success of others. If you’re anxious about how you come across on social media, appoint a couple of trusted friends who are not overly negative to discreetly (and kindly) monitor your content.

 Take time to thank people who have helped you and credit others for their role in the successes in your life.

Send an email or a text and point out that you were thinking of that person and realised you needed to thank them. Or add it into the conversation next time you speak to them. This is incredibly important. We can all have moments where we think we haven’t made that much difference. To hear the words ‘You helped me in a positive way’ is an extraordinary thing.