Warning signs of lockdown depression in children
There may be a change in your child’s sleeping habits for example
MANY parents will be worried about their child’s risk of catching coronavirus, but experts have warned they should also be concerned about their kids’ post-lockdown mental health.
A new review suggests children and young people are likely to experience high rates of depression and anxiety long after lockdown ends, concluding that lonely youngsters might be three times more likely to develop depression in the future, and that the mental health impact of the pandemic could last for up to 10 years.
Clinical psychologist Dr Maria Loades, from the University of Bath, who led the review of more than 60 studies on topics including isolation, loneliness and mental health for young people aged four-21, says: “From our analysis, it is clear there are strong associations between loneliness and depression in young people, both in the immediate and the longer term.
“We know this effect can sometimes be lagged, meaning it can take up to 10 years to really understand the scale of the mental health impact the Covid-19 crisis has created.”
And it’s not just experts worried about the impact of the pandemic on children’s mental health – a study of parents and carers by the charity YoungMinds found 67% were concerned about the longterm impact of coronavirus on their child’s mental health.
The charity is running the Beyond Tomorrow campaign, calling on the Government to take action now to limit the long-term impact of the pandemic on young people’s mental health.
“We know many children and young people have struggled to adjust to the changes brought about by the coronavirus pandemic,” says Tom Madders, YoungMinds’ director of campaigns.
“Whether that’s because they miss friends, have struggled to manage without the structure of school, or have lost their coping mechanisms or professional support, the crisis has put added pressure and anxiety on many young people.
“Because schools have been closed and some GP surgeries have been harder to access, fewer young people than usual are being referred for mental health support – even though it’s likely there has been an increase in the number who are struggling to cope.
“As we start to emerge from the pandemic, some may find it hard to re-adjust after being in isolation, or are coming to terms with a lot more uncertainty about their future. If you’re worried about how your child is coping, trust your instinct and reach out for help.”
According to YoungMinds, these are some of the signs that a child or young person’s mental health may have been affected by the pandemic...
PERSISTENT CHANGES IN MOOD OR BEHAVIOUR:
Keep an eye out for your child exhibiting different moods or behaviours. Try keeping your family routine as consistent as possible, children can really benefit from stability of routine when they are struggling with their feelings or emotions.
Children struggling with their mental health may find it difficult to communicate. Try to open up conversations about what they’re involved and usually interested in.
Young people may find no joy or contentment in things they usually enjoy.
WITHDRAWAL: JOYLESSNESS: POOR SLEEP:
There may be a change in things like your child’s sleeping or eating habits.
LACK OF FOCUS:
Children and young people may be finding it hard to concentrate.
They may have no interest in school, if they’ve returned, or in play, or spending time with people. They may complain of feeling bored or lonely, even when they have friends. Try and talk to your child, and dedicate some quality time that you can spend together and do something they enjoy. This is a great way to help your child open up and reassure them that you’re always there.
LACK OF INTEREST: BOREDOM: IRRITABLENESS:
They may be more irritable and moody than normal.
Children may be tearful, or simply look sad or withdrawn.
SADNESS: LACK OF CONFIDENCE:
They may have less self belief than normal.
As a parent, be part of the solution, suggests YoungMinds. There are many things you can do to support your child, like helping them plan, problem solve, or develop hope for the future. And “don’t blame yourself,” stresses Tom. “It’s so easy to do, but it’s not your fault.”
Contact your GP or school about the warning signs if things don’t improve. You can also contact the YoungMinds parents helpline on 0808 802 5544.
APAEDIATRICIAN Carlos Gonzalez, right, a father of three and author of Kiss Me: How to Raise Your Children With Love, says: “Who’s the one shouting all the time?
Who’s the one in need of discipline? You’re an adult, you have the experience, the knowledge, the mind balance. You know you shouldn’t do it.
“Try harder. Give orders politely. The police can say, ‘Please, sir, you are not allowed to park here’ without shouting.
“Don’t micromanage. Don’t try to regulate every aspect of your children’s behaviour, and to point and correct every little deviation. You’re allowed to shout if your children are killing someone, but I’m quite confident they aren’t.
“Most of the time, you don’t need to shout and you don’t even need to talk. As my father used to say, ‘Before you say something stupid, count to 10. And then, don’t say it’. By punishing petty offences, you lose authority. Reserve your power for really important issues.
“Learn from your failures. Learn humility and tolerance. If you can fail, they also can. Without the experience, the knowledge or the balance, without knowing exactly what’s right and what’s wrong, they’ll fail. Sometimes, too much.
“This isn’t a negotiation. This isn’t, ‘I will not shout, and they’ll behave’ or, even worse, ‘When they start behaving, I’ll stop shouting’.
“You aren’t responsible for your children’s behaviour; you’re responsible for your own. So do the right thing. Be kind, be loving, don’t shout, and don’t expect anything in exchange.
“Enjoy. These are the best years of your life. Your children will grow. Your children will go away. These ‘problems’ of today will be only anecdotes in a few years, and cherished memories in a few decades – if only you can remember yourself smiling instead of shouting.”
■ Kiss Me: How to Raise Your Children With Love by Carlos Gonzalez, published by Pinter & Martin, £9.99