Give yourself a break on holiday...
“SO OFTEN we spend our time pleasing others, be it our boss, friends or family. A holiday is where we get to do what we want in our time frame,” says life coach Sloan Sheridan-Williams.
“To ensure a quick transition to relaxing holiday mode, do something you wouldn’t normally do at home.
“This is the time to let your hair down and do something new to switch your psychology into the mode of exploring the limits of your inner-child.
“The idea is to leave your ego back home and live in the moment, instead of worrying about how others might perceive you.” LORNA CORDWELL, therapist and head of counselling at Chrysalis Courses UK, suggests: “Write yourself a short list of how you would like to feel on holiday, rather than what you would like to do.
Feelings might include relaxed, content, happy, being good company, being adventurous. Many of us find it difficult to escape from work, family or money stress, even on a beach.
asks the experts for advice “Or write yourself a few positive affirmations and keep them in a place where you’ll come across them often – ‘Today I will just have fun’ or ‘Today I will not answer the phone if it’s work’.
“It keeps you focused on exactly that.”
SLOAN says: “A quick trick to promote calm is to find something blue in your surroundings, whether it be the pool, a calm sky view or ocean waves outside your window.
“Stare at it for 60 seconds, taking in three deep breaths and getting lost in the moment. The blue will promote calm while the deep breathing will help you transition to be in a new place and help you focus on the now.”
Lorna agrees: “Short mindfulness meditation or self-hypnosis recordings can do wonders to promote deep relaxation which can stay with you. There are many recordings available online, or book a pre-holiday appointment with a therapist who specialises in these techniques.” expectations of the perfect selfie and Photoshopped celebrities on Instagram and other social media channels creates unrealistic pressures, which will severely challenge your ability to enjoy yourself on holiday and cause you unnecessary stress,” says Sloan.
“Only post the pictures that make you happy or add meaning to your holiday and forget about the number of likes and shares. Looking to others to make you happy will leave you unfulfilled.” ILIA DAOUSSI from The Society of Teachers of the Alexander Technique suggests lying down in the ‘semisupine’ position, also known as ‘active rest’, at least once a day during a holiday. Lie on the floor with a couple of books (or something the equivalent height) under your head, and bend your knees with your feet flat on the floor, shoulder width apart. You can do this by the pool, or on your beach lounger. “Think of the whole of your back, starting at your tailbone and gradually work all the way up to the top of your spine, with the idea of a gentle unfurling all the way up, together with a widening of your torso,” says Ilia. “Lying down on the floor isn’t instinctive when you need to de-stress but the impact that the semi-supine has is immediately palpable; and it’s healthier, quicker and more effective than a glass of wine.”