Man bombarded ex with vile abuse and wild accusations
HE BREACHED RESTRAINING ORDER
You need never spend another night in prison again if you just leave her alone. You well knew what you were doing was wrong but you did it anyway.
AN obsessed and “delusionally fixated” ex-boyfriend bombarded a woman with vile abuse and angrily accused her of sleeping with “half of Hull”.
James Gilby told her that he was dying to have sex with her and made pathetic pleading messages begging her to have him back, Hull Crown Court heard.
He believed that she was playing mind games with him and told her that she needed a “slap” around her head, the court was told.
Gilby, 38, of Great Thornton Street, Hull, admitted breaching a restraining order between March 22 and August 16.
Jazmine Lee, prosecuting, said that Gilby was given a restraining order in March 2019, after being jailed for a revenge porn offence of disclosing private photographs.
But he made numerous telephone calls and sent text messages to the woman at her home and called her a “dirty b***h”.
He told her: “I’m going to end up going to jail over this. I f***ing miss you” and also said: “I miss you so much, mamma.”
The former painter and decorator told her that he was dying to have sex with her and said: “I still miss you.”
He also told her: “I can’t believe all the s*** you are causing me” and asked: “You know I love you, right?”
Gilby sent a message to an old school friend of his and accused him of sleeping with the woman.
He accused his ex-girlfriend of sleeping with “half of Hull” and branded her a “lying c***”.
Gilby told her: “Maybe you need a slap around your head.”
He had convictions for 24 previous offences, including for violence and
Judge Tremberg
public order matters, and had been given an eight-week suspended prison sentence by Hull magistrates in March for similar offences to the latest ones.
Judge David Tremberg branded the insults used by Gilby as “absolutely vile” and “emotional abuse”.
The couple split up in 2019, but Gilby breached the court order and seemed to be “bent upon destabilising her” by giving her the impression that neither the restraining order nor prison sentences could protect her from him.
“You showed an utter contempt for that order,” said Judge Tremberg.
The threats, harassment and verbal abuse “blended with pathetic pleading messages” to her and “spiteful threats”.
“This offending has an element of persistence about it,” said Judge Tremberg.’
“You need never spend another night in prison again if you just leave her alone.
“You well knew what you were doing was wrong but you did it anyway.”
Cathy Kioko-gilligan, mitigating, said that the offending was short-lived but unpleasant.
Gilby had suffered problems but had the support of his “long-suffering mother”.
He was jailed for 14 months.