Ken’s learning how to live with his dementia
For many, leaving the cupboard doors open would be put down as a natural part of ageing. But for Ken Nicholls, it was the first sign of his dementia.
The 75-year-old, of Shaftesbury Drive, Maidstone, was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease around six months ago after he began forgetting things. But while some might be fearful in the face of the condition, Mr Nicholls has a different outlook.
“I am very pragmatic, I just accept it,” he told the Kent Messenger. “I’ve got it so I’ve got it. Some people refuse to do that, but it makes it much easier. I might get angry at myself when I forget things, I keep bashing into cupboard doors. I’ve walked into the patio doors, which really hurt.
“My wife and I have even cancelled a foreign holiday because I was concerned about what I would do if I got parted from her. But generally we haven’t let it affect our lives.
“I still have my independence and I’ve had a great deal of help, meaning I can plan for what happens next.”
The retired accountant has joined a number of Alzheimer’s Society groups, including a dementia cafe, while his wife of 47 years, Carol, has been on a carer’s course run by Bay Tree House. And Kent County Council has helped him with equipment to stop falls at home, caused by changes in his perception, as well as a card to carry, which tells people about his condition in the case of an emergency.
He says that his early diagnosis, and having the tools in place to deal with dementia is key to learning to live well with the condition.
Mr Nicholls added: “We’re both worried about the future, of course we are.
“But it helps that I’ve spoken to other people deeper into it so I know what to expect.”