ASK THE EXPERT
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I’VE got a baby and a twoyear-old and am feeling very isolated because of the pandemic restrictions. What can I do to feel more positive, and improve life for my children in the run-up to Christmas?
ACHILD psychotherapist Becky Saunders, head of policy and development at Home-Start (home-start.org.uk),
a network of trained volunteers helping families with young children through challenging times, says: “As parents we can often be our own worst critic, and easily feel judged. An important part of taking care of yourself is to acknowledge the feelings you’re having, and remind yourself they’re valid.
“It might sound impossible, but it helps to try and get enough sleep. When children nap and you can choose between joining them or catching up with the washing, don’t be afraid to opt for the snooze. Sleep is revitalising, and good health is vitally important for you and your children.
“Prioritise quality time together and don’t set unrealistic goals. With the added pressures of Christmas and the pandemic, it’s easy to blame yourself for not achieving lots every day. Remember that providing stability and building nurturing relationships with your children is what they need most.
“Don’t worry if other things drop off the ‘to do’ list and don’t let what you haven’t achieved add to a pile-up of guilt. When parents are stressed, babies and young children can pick up on these feelings, and their worries come out in all kinds of ways, including in their behaviour.
“Over the Christmas period, plan in some time to be in touch with friends or other trusted adults. Use catch-ups to tell people close to you how you’re feeling and if you’re struggling, and don’t be afraid to ask directly for practical help. If you can’t call on friends and family, reach out to a service like Home-Start.”
HOME-START and food redistribution charity FareShare are set to benefit from the John Lewis and Waitrose Give a Little Love campaign (johnlewis.com/ content/give-a-little-love), which aims to raise £5m by encouraging people to embrace the Christmas spirit by making a donation, buying campaign products with profits donated to the charities, and helping in their local community.