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Support network: vulnerable. These are the times when talking about your feelings with someone close to you can really help.”

“CHRISTMAS, Father’s Day, Mother’s Day and other important dates can often bring up painful memories or feelings of hurt, anger, guilt or shame. It’s good to remember that the first year is always the trickiest; it doesn’t mean that 10 years down the line Christmas won’t be difficult, but resurfacing feelings might not be as painful.”

Make sure you make use of friends

“IF you’ve decided your parent’s behaviour is a toxic influence in your life, set yourself some boundaries and make sure everyone in your life knows about them,” says Peter.

“Politely ask other members of the family not to try and bring you and the estranged parent together. Be clear that you’ve reached that decision and it’s the right one for you.”

“A LOT of people seek therapy to help them to come to terms with the decision, which can be very helpful. Some adult children will join groups, while others might distract themselves with work or other activities.

“A helpful CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) technique could be writing a letter to the estranged parent detailing all the reasons why you made the decision to cut off contact. Sometimes just having that letter as a reference point to revisit when you’re struggling, can help.

“You could also try imagining the conversation you’d have with a friend who was going through a similar situation, and the advice you’d give to them if you weren’t emotionally involved. This can help you see the problem from another viewpoint.

“Every estrangement is different and there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. If you’re keen to heal the relationship, it’s good to ask yourself if you’ve done everything you can.

“Using agencies like Relate can be helpful, as we can bring together the two parties and try to find a way of repairing the emotional damage.”

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