Spiritualism Con?
I am very worried about my neighbour because since her husband died she has been going to visit psychics and to the spiritualist church. I understand that they give her comfort, but they just sound like charlatans to me. Her daughter is very keen and seems to encourage her mother. I feel they are not giving themselves a chance to mourn. What should I say to her? n i can tell from your letter that you know your neighbour and are concerned for her. You also must have known her husband as well and your concern is to help her into a new stage of her life.
For many of us, the minimum time to get through the grieving process is about two years. For some it is much longer. During that time, we have to adjust to being without our partner, to make time with friends and family to recall all the things that made them special. Many people wish they could just talk to the departed one and your neighbour seems to be following that path. You have some choices here: You could go with your neighbour, to see for yourself how it all works and to support her. this might give you a better understanding before dismissing it. By being with her you would be showing support and an open mind. in due course things will change for your neighbour as she goes through the grieving process.
or you can find other ways to provide support, by suggesting outings and trips that can start to help fill the gap her recent bereavement has left. Shopping, or theatre trips, outings to the coast or just a visit to a local event will be a huge comfort to her. Being the good neighbour and friend that you are is more about being available than anything else.
You could show support for her, and an open mind