I’m Overwhelmed With Health Issues
QI am 59, divorced and have health problems that seem to be increasing by the month. During the day I keep busy, see friends, help at an old folks’ lunch club to keep my mind off the pain and increasing physical limitations. However at night, I can rarely sleep more than a few hours and feel terribly alone, overwhelmed by despair and the prospect of dying of my illnesses. I hate this wallowing in self-pity but I can’t seem to snap out of it.
AI must say, I do admire your spirit for working so hard to help others and achieve as much as possible. Yet it’s sad that your nights are miserable and alone. Physical limitations affect us all in different ways, but perhaps it’s the psychological pain that is stopping you in your tracks?
At least you’re aware of being overwhelmed, which shows it is high time to do something about it. Are there other volunteers like you at the
old folks’ lunch club? Perhaps one will know of a counsellor that has helped them or someone close. If not, ask your GP for help. There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and by explaining your understandable fears and worries you can get the correct advice and be listened to. Try expanding your social network or reconnecting with friends from the past. The internet offers support groups such as WWW. SORTINGOUTSEPARATION.ORG.UK/YOUR-HEALTH/ SEPARATION-DIVORCE-SUPPORT-GROUPS/ or WWW.MIDLIFEDIVORCERECOVERY.COM/DIVORCESUPPORT
The later stages of life are uncertain for all of us and we all face physical decline. The good news is you really can be helped with the mental as well as physical aspects so you can enjoy what you do. You are not alone.
We all face uncertainty and physical decline in the later stages of life – you are not alone