My Son-In-Law Is A Lying Cheat!
Ifeel like I want to strangle my lying son-in-law! He just can’t help himself, but he lies about absolutely everything. If he found 10p in the street, it would be £10 by the time he told the story! He has a habit of disappearing for days at a time, too – supposedly on business. I hate that he is lying to my daughter and I strongly suspect that he’s up to no good. I don’t want to fall out with her, but what can I do?
That all does sound rather grim. To feel you know something about your daughter’s husband that she doesn’t know must be a real burden. Firstly, you say that he lies all the time, even about little things – do you have proof of this? Or could it be that he tries to tell a good story by exaggeration?
The trips away are worrying if they are not related to his work – again do you have any proof? Next time he is away, arrange a good time to take your
daughter out somewhere nice. During the conversation I’m sure her husband’s absence will crop up, and you can ask her how she feels about it and if she knows where he is, and find out more about his work. Knowledge is power – and it may be that with some hard facts and evidence of his work, the trips away will be legitimised and reassure you.
It’s important to start with an open mind. It may well be that your daughter likes his storytelling and knows exactly where he goes and what he does. She may even relish some time on her own.
However, if she has doubts too – and you will soon know if she does – then it is time for you to gently but firmly offer support and to be there for her.
I would suggest though, that you get more information to enable you to see it all more clearly before you act.
Could it be simply that he tries to tell a good story by using exaggeration?