Ask Helen
Has he done research before he booked, to make allowances for your current needs?
As someone who has been a social worker, mother, wife and divorcee I have been around the block a few times. I’m humbled to answer your questions and feel that if a problem can be shared it can be halved – at the very least.
What a lovely idea, taking you away to recover somewhere nice. It does sound idyllic. BUT it is also a touch thoughtless and inconsiderate, given your obvious limitations. You are clearly in recovery with limited mobility. You are on painkillers and so must be careful with alcohol. These facts alone are valid reasons to stay home. And, as you say, never mind all the Covid complications!
However, perhaps your husband knows a different side to the situation and genuinely believes the break will not only do you good, but is doable as well? Perhaps he has done research before he booked? Is the accommodation all on one level, so you won’t have to negotiate stairs? Is it fully catered so you needn’t cook or shop? Is he prepared to sit in most days as you can’t walk far? And has he considered what will happen if Covid restrictions change again? Without knowing details, it is difficult to assess the merits and limitations. Only you will know what is doable and what isn’t.
There are choices here. You could thank him for the offer and see if you can postpone the holiday to focus on your recovery. Or, if you consider the practical help available, you may decide you could actually benefit from the trip as your husband intended. Either way a careful and practical conversation is needed.
Write to Helen Lederer at: Ask Helen, My Weekly, 2 Albert Square, Dundee DD1 1DD. Helen is unable to enter into private correspondence with readers.