Your dilemmas

After my best friend’s husband cheated, she took him back and I just can’t support her on it. I told her at the time to end it, but after weeks crying on my shoulder, asking for my advice, she did the opposite. Should I tell her how hurt I am? Gilly, Brighton

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Pick Me Up! reader Julie from Sheffield says:

Friendships have to be based on honesty and it’s clear that you’re annoyed that she didn’t take your advice. Not that I think she should have done! She’s a grown woman who needs to make her own mistakes and learn from them. But it’s important that you tell her that you believe she’s done the wrong thing by letting him come back into her life. I suspect you know her very well so have a good insight into their lives. Just don’t let it ruin your friendship.

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Pick Me Up! reader Sophie from Poole says:

It’s your job as a friend to comfort her and offer your advice, but that doesn’t mean she’s obliged to take it. Are you suggesting that because she hasn’t done what you told her to do, she’s in the wrong? She has the right to make her own decisions. Your job is to support your friend through this tough time and respect her decision. But most importantly, you need to be there to pick up the pieces if this does go wrong – while never saying ‘I told you so.’