Shall I break her trust and tell them?

My single mum has recently been diagnosed with cancer and she doesn’t want anyone to know, as she doesn’t want a fuss. It’s in the early stages and after an operation and radiotherapy, she should be OK. But I still think that my siblings and her friends should know about it. Should I just tell them?

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Pick Me Up! reader Ruby from Glasgow says: Your mum might be annoyed at the start when you reveal her diagnosis, but she needs all the support she can get right now, and she’ll understand. Just make sure you only tell the closest people to you both so that you have a tightknit group to rely on. Truth is, you can’t shoulder all of this alone, and it’s important to create a network that you and your mum can both turn to.

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Pick Me Up! reader Tilda from Brighton says:

This is definitely not your decision to make and you need to think very carefully before you bulldoze your mum during this very unsettling and very personal time. Truth is, she will probably change her mind in her own time. She is likely to feel very out of control right now, and if you take the decision out of her hands, it will do more harm than good.

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Pick Me Up! reader Kayla from Dorset says: Why should he get to own a house with you when you were the one who made all the sacrifices? It’s not right that he now gets to be a homeowner, and I’m surprised he has even asked to be. Unless you go into this 50/50 from the start, you’re always going to resent that he didn’t help you more. You need to think with your head.

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Pick Me Up! reader Naomi from Swansea says:

Most relationships aren’t completely equal when it comes to finances. Would you feel the same way if you were a stay at home mum raising his child with only his income to rely on? I’m sure you’d want to be included in the house sale just as much as he does right now. Relationships are a partnership, not a competition.