Confront My ex?

My ex and I split on good terms four years ago, when our children were 3 and 1. Both of us have seen other people, but he’s been dating a new woman recently.

I’m concerned about the amount of time he’s spending with her instead of our kids.

Our son and daughter love seeing their dad on weekends, but he keeps cancelling to spend time with this girlfriend.

Should I tell him my concerns?

YES

Pick Me Up! reader Debbie Hadden says, ‘Talk to him, but try to keep things on good terms. Perhaps see if he wants to make a formal arrangement for seeing them? He might be more careful with his time then.

Other than that, it might be worth telling your kids that their dad loves them very much, but sometimes he might not be around. I’m sure they’ll understand the need for grown-up time too.’

NO

Pick Me Up! reader Sheridan Hawkins says, ‘It’s a difficult situation, but please still let your kids see their dad, even if it’s just once a month. They’ll still be able to maintain a relationship. Don’t tell your children about the contact arrangements, then they won’t be disappointed if he flakes.

Give it time, and the joys of his new relationship will die down, then he’ll realise what he’s missing out on.

Hopefully, that will bring more stability for you all.’