HELPFUL HINTS FOR FAMILY LIFE Tips for embracing short term goals

Could seizing the day again help improve your mental wellbeing?

Many people have felt out of sorts since the pandemic – whether it’s the cancellations, disappointments or endless restriction, and being challenged by something none of us could control. As a result, right now, we might not be as focused on longer-term lifetime ambitions as we were two years ago – and instead feel more determined to seize the day and live for the moment. So how can you let go a little and live more for today?

1. Break down longer-term goals into smaller ones

Behavioural psychologist Jo Hemming says to think about things you want to do this year, not just 10 or 20 years in the future. ‘Use what’s happened to us in the last couple of years to understand why we need to cherish the moment. With our families, those who’ve lost people or been seriously ill, it’s in our mindset that we can’t take everything for granted.’

2. Don’t feel guilty about self-care

‘Self-care is very important,’ stresses Hemming. ‘I think people confuse self-care for self-indulgence, especially when they’re saving and have long-term goals.

‘It’s those little bursts of pleasure, doing something for yourself which actually contributes to your wellbeing.

And if your wellbeing is in a good place, then your perspective on life generally improves and you feel less guilty about either spending money, doing that thing or taking time out.’

3. Work out a short-term pleasure plan

Hemming says to ‘work out what pleases you. What gives you that dopamine hit? What are the things you’ve missed that you haven’t done, for whatever reason? Just reflecting back on what you were doing in a different time – perhaps when you were younger, or didn’t have so many money worries – can be helpful. How can you adapt that to something which: A, you can afford, and B, you have the time to do,’