Dear Fiona
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 10 years but I’m sick of his constant mood changes
QAfter 10 years with my boyfriend, my head is in a spin. For much of the last year, we have been talking about our relationship, going round and round.
Last month he moved back in with his parents but called me most days. Eventually he said he didn’t want to let me go and wanted to give our relationship one more try. To try and mend things we went on holiday together, but nothing really changed. What do I do?
AI am sorry you are having a dreadful time of this, but I wonder if the reason your boyfriend is so confused is that he doesn’t know how you feel about him.
So, how do you feel about him? Do you love him? And if you do, have you told him this? Alternatively, if you don’t love him, why are you still together? It may be that one or both of you decides there isn’t any real love in this relationship, in which case you will no doubt part.
QMy new husband’s two children from his first marriage are driving me spare. It’s his daughter who’s the worst, she’s only 15, but already every bit as spiteful as her mother.
It’s got to the stage where I dread them coming to stay and will arrange something to do just to be away from them for a few hours. What can I do?
AIt’s never easy stepping into a ready-made family, and children caught up in the process often find it a particularly difficult and confusing time. It’s possible they are struggling to come to terms with the fact their original family is broken. They might also resent having to share their father with you. You’re completely blameless, but it seems you have become the focus of their anger and confusion. What does your husband think about all of this? To get through to these teenagers, I think you will need his support and input.
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