I was the same person but people expected me to be different overnight

He won 100 caps as one of Wales’ most successful rugby stars – but coming out remains Gareth Thomas’ biggest career achievement, he tells

RETIRED rugby star Gareth Thomas is a sporting legend, not just for once being the most-capped Welsh player on the pitch, but for his work advocating for LGBTQ+ rights.

The 47-year-old made history when he became the first openly gay rugby union player in 2009, facing a media frenzy at a time when there was scant recognition of diverse sexualities and identities in sport.

In 2019, he revealed he is HIV positive, and has been tirelessly campaigning to end the stigma around the condition ever since.

We spoke to the former Welsh captain about life after rugby, and why representation in sport matters... should have been in place already.

I was very fearful. Even though I thrived on fear as a rugby player, what I didn’t want was everything I’d worked so hard for to all of a sudden become irrelevant.

I might be a person that has great ability, a good sense of humour and great values, but people could say, ‘We’re gonna ignore that from now on and we’re gonna focus on that one thing’. The fear for me, my teammates and my family was huge.

Through ignorance, people become abusive. It became difficult because I was the same person, but I just spoke about something that was always a part of me. People expected me to be completely different overnight, but the rugby player hadn’t changed at all.

There’s this idea that people always fight for things because they want to be celebrated for it, but it’s not that. Sometimes they just want to be able to be the person they really are and be treated equally.

Is it frustrating that when you’re a gay person in the public eye, people automatically think you want to be an outspoken activist? If someone spoke about sexuality in the world of football, I guarantee my phone would be red-hot. Tom Daley’s would probably also be redhot.

As a reader or viewer, I’d rather hear the views of a heterosexual footballer, like Alan Shearer, or Gary Lineker. People know what my views are. I’m passionate and will fight tooth and nail for equality for everybody, but we need to start changing the voices in these conversations.

Talking about lived experience is always going to be powerful, but we need to hear from a diverse range of voices because that’s what people are going to listen to. There would be so many non-gay footballers who would support a gay footballer speaking about his sexuality, yet nobody seems to find that a point of interest.

Around 6% of the population is gay, but if you only have one openly gay person in a sport of around 500 or 600 people, something’s not adding up. It’s also still illegal to be gay in 69 countries in the world, so we can sit here and say everything’s fine but there’s still a way to

go.

There’s so much work to be done on all levels, to create an environment where people can have the ability to be authentic and play sport.

We’ve still got a really long way to go with ending the stigma. I block around 30 people a day on social media, who send a message that’s something to do with my HIV status.

I’m extremely passionate about creating an environment where the misunderstanding around HIV is no longer relevant.

HIV is not a virus that can kill you, if you get tested and take medication. You can live a long, happy and healthy life. Lots of people still don’t know that. It’s really important that we eradicate this fear for everybody.

Another thing I’m passionate about getting across to people, is that this isn’t just a virus that affects black African men or women or gay men. It affects everybody.

So much information was given (during the AIDS crisis) in the 1980s, but not much has been given since, and we need to catch up with the progress of the last 20 years of medicine.

HIV is now a manageable virus you can live with, and doesn’t stop you from achieving anything.

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Passed away on the 18th September 2021. The much loved Wife of Len, loving Mum to Julie and the late Paul, Sister in law of Shirley and Dennis and a dear friend to many.

Funeral service to take place at Rochdale Crematorium on Tuesday 5th October at 11.50am. Family flowers only please, donations, if desired, to The Stroke Association. All enquiries to

Passed peacefully on 21st September 2021, aged 78 years. Loving Dad of Joanne, Michael and Elizabeth. Supportive father-in-law of Ryan and Gordon. Proud Grandpa of Ella, Isobel and Tom. Thoughtful older brother of Stuart and Uncle of James and Hannah.

David valued all people equally and demonstrated his integrity and tenacity through his lifelong commitment to his community. He was known for his work as a stonemason and later as the Chairman of Rochdale AFC until 2008.