Take time when plan­ning your fit­ting fi­nal farewell

Rutherglen Reformer - - Bereavement -

Plan­ning your own fu­neral ser­vice in ad­vance means you can de­sign and spec­ify the ex­act type of ser­vice you would like, so that your friends and fam­ily re­mem­ber your life as you want them to.

And by let­ting your fam­ily know how you’d like your fu­neral or memo­rial ser­vice to be, they’ll have less dif­fi­cult and com­pli­cated de­ci­sions to make dur­ing a dif­fi­cult emo­tional time.

The bur­den you are lift­ing in de­cid­ing the ex­act de­tails of the ser­vice will take some of the emo­tional stress and strain off your loved ones shoul­ders.

You have to de­cide if you would like to have a fu­neral ser­vice, fol­lowed by burial or cre­ma­tion and if you take time to plan the de­tails, you are us­ing your right to have the send off that you want.

Your lo­cal un­der­taker is your first port of call.

They can help ad­vise you on every as­pect of plan­ning your fu­neral ser­vice.

You can choose what type of cof­fin you would like, from tra­di­tional styles to wicker style coffins.

The un­der­taker can also help you de­cide on where your ser­vice should take place? Will it be the lo­cal cre­ma­to­rium or do you pre­fer a burial?

These are de­ci­sions that your loved ones face un­less you take steps to ad­dress what send off you would like.

Next you have to think about the ser­vice it­self.

From the or­der of ser­vice to hymns or mu­sic that means some­thing to you, this is the time to choose what’s right.

Will it be a re­li­gious ser­vice or do you want to opt for a hu­man­ist style fu­neral.

Do you want a min­is­ter to con­duct the ser­vice or do you want fam­ily mem­bers and friends to take the lead and per­form read­ings?

And as for mu­sic? Choos­ing a fu­neral song is a dif­fi­cult task.

Among the top 10 fu­neral songs as found by the Co-op­er­a­tive Funer­al­care, My Way by Frank Si­na­tra, An­gels by Rob­bie Wil­liams and You’ll Never Walk Alone by Gerry and Pace­mak­ers were among the songs cho­sen.

Or if it is a re­li­gious cer­e­mony, choose your favourite hymn to be per­formed. Now, it’s on to your fu­neral wake. Ho­tels in your area are happy to cater for any re­quests and this is a time to find out what they of­fer as part of a fu­neral pack­age. Do you want a fin­ger buf­fet or sausage rolls or even a sit-down meal?

Turn to their events or­gan­is­ers for their ad­vice.

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