Scottish Daily Mail

so how many cheats did you spot?

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LOOK first at the previous page and then see here if you could identify photos of those who have cheated on their partners. If so, you confirm a scientific study out this week. Researcher­s at the University of Western Australia discovered that people are able to identify love cheats 59 per cent of the time just from their faces.

1. MEL: CHEAT

Mel Sevieri, 25, is a student and model who lives in Plymouth, with her children Jack, six, and Soraya, two. She has now broken up with her children’s father after cheating on him. When my children were aged three and three months I realised how very unhappy I was in my relationsh­ip with their dad, my partner of four years. I felt I’d lost all influence over every aspect of my life. however, with such a young baby, I didn’t feel there was any way out.

In an attempt to make myself feel better, I started flirting by text with an old colleague from a bar where I used to work. he came round to the house one day and one thing led to another and we ended up in bed.

Afterwards, I felt incredibly guilty because, even though I’d fallen out of love with my partner, it felt very wrong.

I never told my children’s dad what I’d done and the only positive to come out of it was that it gave me the impetus to end my relationsh­ip with him. I would never condone infidelity — it’s cowardly and hurtful — and I’m in a relationsh­ip now with a man I love and would never dream of cheating on him.

2. MALCOLM: CHEAT

MalcolM cleaveS, 69, is a black cab driver, and lives in Takeley, essex, with his wife Janet, 68. They have been married for 30 years and have three children. CAll me a serial philandere­r and I will stand guilty as charged. I had multiple affairs during my ten-year marriage to my first wife, including one over three years. She knew nothing of them until I confessed after we divorced when I was 34. Foolishly I didn’t learn my lesson. I married Janet, my second wife, in 1985 when I was 39. Fifteen years later, I was up to my old tricks and I began a six-year affair with a mutual friend of ours, a travel agent.

It’s a feeble excuse, but Janet and I had been arguing over finances, having mortgaged ourselves up to the hilt, and had become distant from one another. I selfishly believed an affair was the escape I deserved.

By July 2006, Janet had stopped believing my denials of adultery. Realising I was on the cusp of losing her, I ended my affair and tearfully confessed all. Instead of throwing me out, I’m delighted to say that Janet gave me another chance.

We are about to celebrate our 30th wedding anniversar­y and although I no longer punish myself, I will regret what I did to her as long as I live.

3. HANNAH: FAITHFUL

HannaH aTkinSon, 36, is a single stay-at-home mum who lives in Thirsk, north Yorks, with her threeyear-old son. GRoWInG up, I was surrounded by monogamous relationsh­ips. My parents, Sue and Tony, have been together for 44 years and my older sister Rachael has been with her husband since I was ten so there’s never been any question: you just don’t cheat. It’s wrong.

Although my own three- year marriage didn’t work out as we grew apart, I never considered cheating.

I know the pain that cheating can bring. My first serious boyfriend was unfaithful four or five times and each time I’ d be l eft reeling, desperatel­y upset and in tears.

I’m single because I’m concentrat­ing on bringing up my son. But being cheated on can ruin people’s lives. Which is why I’d never do it.

4. RYAN: FAITHFUL

rYan DoYle, 33, a police inspector, lives in Devon with his wife of seven years, kate, 32, and their two young sons. I WAS only 19 and Kate was 18 when we started dating 13 years ago, so neither of us had ever had a serious relationsh­ip before.

We’ve spent all our adult lives together and I could never be unfaithful to Kate — showing such a lack of respect for the trust she puts in me would cause irreparabl­e damage.

We’re both lucky we grew up in homes where commitment was the norm. I wear a wedding ring and anyone who knows me will testify that I’m always talking about my wife and children. I don’t suppose I’d do that if I was in the market for an affair!

5. JON: CHEAT

Jon WilSon, 57, is a musician and lives in Brentford, West london. He is divorced without children. AT A party in Brighton 20 years ago, I had sex with an old acquaintan­ce while my wife of four years was asleep at our home.

Despite being a musician and spending many a late night reveling in the company of attractive women, it’s the only time I’ve cheated.

I’d had a bit to drink but wasn’t intoxicate­d. even while I was in bed with the woman I knew it was wrong. It’s difficult to rationalis­e why I got myself into that situation — it was a mistake, a moment of madness while swept along with flattering flirtation.

Seeing my wedding ring glinting on my finger the next morning, I was consumed with guilt and a few days later I confessed to my wife. She reacted unexpected­ly rationally, but within a year she left me for a man she said she’d been having an affair with for three months.

I was absolutely devastated but knew that my own indiscreti­on had quite possibly led her to stray.

Since then I have been resolutely monogamous. I cannot abide the idea of people cheating.

6. LAURA: FAITHFUL

laura Barnell, 39, an administra­tion supervisor, is married to Jon, 42, a painter. They have two children lexie, seven, and lennon, four. She lives in northampto­nshire and has been faithfully married for 12 years. I love getting dressed up and having nights out with my girlfriend­s. Sometimes Jon will give me a disapprovi­ng look when he sees how short my skirt is, but he’s happy to let me go out because he’s 100 per cent confident I’d never cheat on him.

Men sometimes chat me and my friends up, and join us on the dance floor, and it’s nice to get attention, but if they so much as try to kiss me I give them very short shrift.

Jon and I started dating when I was 21. All I’d ever wanted was to settle down and have children, so we married when I was 27 and started our family a few years later.

Fidelity is a two-way thing and I know I can trust Jon just as he can trust me.

7. RIK: FAITHFUL

rik JuDgeS, 33, is a project manager from gloucester where he lives with his fiancee katie, 41, a wine adviser, whom he is due to marry in a fortnight. They have two children, charlie, four, and Tilly, two. In My view, trust i s the most important building block in any relationsh­ip, so I would never cheat. I don’t know how people rebuild their relationsh­ips following an affair. It must leave so much suspicion in its wake.

I recognised in Katie someone who also attaches great importance to being honest and we’re very happy together.

I’m looking forward to wearing my wedding ring once we’re married. I see it as a badge of honour.

I’d not only hurt Katie by cheating but also our ch i l d r e n who benefit from having a stable home with two parents who are committed to one another.

My parents have been happily married for 35 years and I want the same stability for my own children.

8. ANGELA: CHEAT

angela cuSSonS, 41, is a life coach and lives near oxford with her partner of three years, nigel, 56, an iT technician. TWo years ago, when nigel and I had been together for only a year, I slept with an old friend.

I just happened to be working close to where he lived and, although I had no intention of sleeping with him, one thing led to another and we ended up having sex.

Although we’d had a few glasses of wine, we weren’t drunk.

There were a few niggles in my relationsh­ip with nigel at the time and, like many women i n that situation, it was more the attention that was appealing rather than sex.

I believe that when women cheat it’ s emotionall­y, r ather t han sexually, driven.

he was desperate for me to leave nigel but I knew it was a one-off. A few days later I confessed all to nigel because I couldn’t bear being dishonest.

Unsurprisi­ngly, he was angry and hurt, but we resolved that my dalliance shouldn’t spell the end of our relationsh­ip. And it didn’t.

It’s not something that I ever plan on repeating.

9. HANNAH: FAITHFUL

HannaH Huxford, 38, a pharmaceut­ical products manager, lives in West London with husband rob, 40, and children Sam, six, and Poppy, two. She and rob have been an item for 11 years, married for five, and she’s been faithful throughout. FIdelIty in a relationsh­ip has always been very important to me, so I would never have an affair.

I was once cheated on by a boyfriend and it’s an awful thing. I feel confident my husband would not be unfaithful to me. I have lots of male friends too and I’m a very friendly person but I don’t flirt because I would never want to give anyone the wrong idea.

I have made a commitment to Rob and we have two children together. Being unfaithful would not only be hurtful, it would be disrespect­ful.

10. BILL: FAITHFUL

BiLL BoSWeLL, 44, runs a business-mentoring company with his wife of five years, Veronica, 44, and lives on the isle of Wight. He has always been faithful. When I was 30 I was engaged to a woman who died suddenly of heart failure. I was devastated to lose her. It made me appreciate how precious a loving relationsh­ip is. I’d never do anything to risk losing Veronica. She’s what I’ve always wanted.

11. ABBIE: CHEAT

aBBie HoLLand, 27, a hairdresse­r, lives in Sittingbou­rne, Kent, with children Poppy, six, and oliver, four months. abbie cheated on her partner, the father of her eldest child. She is now single. When Poppy was two, I bumped into a man I’d known during my teens and, after a couple of drinks, we became very flirtatiou­s. I’m not proud to admit that, at the end of the night, we went home together.

I’ve never seen him again, but I felt so racked with guilt about it the following day that I confessed all to my partner. he was really upset. thankfully, seeing how much I regretted what I’d done, he forgave me. We even went on to get married and were together for another three or four years after my infidelity.

But he never trusted me again. We eventually broke up two years ago.

12. JULIAN: CHEAT

JuLian naPier, 49, is a film director and lives in Southgate, north London, with his daughter Chloe, 19. He has been with his girlfriend, Liz, 39, a film producer, for 18 months. to thIS day, I feel choked when I remember how I cheated on my beloved girlfriend in 1995. I adored Mayte but our l ong- distance relationsh­ip — she lived in Spain — was challengin­g.

When I went to los Angeles briefly for work, we hadn’t seen each other for six months and I was instantly attracted to a lady I met there. during a si x- week affair, we accidental­ly conceived our beautiful daughter, Chloe.

Riddled with guilt and regret, I confessed to Mayte that not only had I cheated on her, I was also going to be a father. I had destroyed our future. I’ll never forgive myself for breaking her heart and have never cheated on a woman since.

interVieWS by Jill foster, Helen Carroll, Sadie nicholas and Lorraine fisher

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