4 TRICKS THAT WILL HELP

consulTAnT clinical psychologist and attachment expert, Dr claudia Herbert, says:

1. CONTINUE BEDTIME STORIES

JUST because you live miles away, it doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy bedtime stories together.

They are a valuable attachment tool because you are capturing the child’s imagination.

Try the new Kindoma app. This videochat app has built-in books that both users can see, so you read together. There are other options available besides reading — you can also draw together or play games.

2. CREATE A SPECIAL PLACE

WHEN your grandchildren visit, personalise their room — it could be as simple as using a colour they love. If a visit isn’t possible, they could have a special ‘granny place’ in their bedroom where they keep a picture of you, or something special you sent them. It doesn’t have to be anything expensive — a pebble you found on the beach is perfect.

3. MAKE THE MOST OF POST

SEND little gifts, cards and letters. Every time you visit a new place, drop them a line telling them about it, letting them know that you wished they were there.

4. KNOW ABOUT THEIR LIVES

GET to know about the details of their lives. What you’re aiming to do here is focus not on the practical aspects of their routine but on the things they prioritise.

So rather than asking them what lessons they did at school today, ask them what they really enjoyed, or who their favourite friends are. The secret to strengthening your bond is to understand not what they do but what they value.