DATE DOCTOR’S VERDICT
FINDING the person of our dreams can feel like it is turning into a nightmare. Dating Doctor Alana Kirk, a single mother of three and a midlife dater herself, explains why sleepwalking through one form of dating can stop you waking up to new possibilities . . . PERHAPS dating the first time round was the tradition of meeting a guy or gal in a dance hall or club, or through work or friends. Now technology puts romance on speed dial, and dating on digital access.
But while setting out to find a romantic partner can seem like a major project, it’s good to remember a mix of methods will not only make it more interesting, but open up the possibilities and opportunities to meet your perfect partner. A mix of traditional and technological, FaceTime and face-to-face, searches and social circles can all help keep dating dalliances interesting and motivating.
It also helps us refine our preferences and define our boundaries through each experience. We can be afraid to try new things, but, providing you stay safe, you never know what just might work for you.
On the other hand, just because the latest trend is to do one thing, doesn’t mean you have to try it. Don’t forget, meeting people and making friends can be a key part of the dating process. You might not be right for each other, but your friendship could open up a new social circle.