Michelle Obama: We had our daugh­ters with IVF... and go to cou­ples ther­apy

Scottish Daily Mail - - News - From Tom Leonard in New York

MICHELLE Obama yes­ter­day re­vealed she felt ‘lost and alone’ af­ter suf­fer­ing a mis­car­riage and un­der­went IVF to con­ceive her two daugh­ters.

‘I felt like I failed be­cause I didn’t know how com­mon mis­car­riages were be­cause we don’t talk about them,’ the for­mer First Lady said.

Mrs Obama, 54, mar­ried the fu­ture pres­i­dent in 1992 but stressed their re­la­tion­ship has not al­ways been easy as his po­lit­i­cal ca­reer of­ten took him away.

She dis­closed they have mar­riage coun­selling ‘when we need it’.

A driven lawyer and for­mer uni­ver­sity ad­min­is­tra­tor, she said she was 34 or 35 when she re­alised the ‘bi­o­log­i­cal clock is real be­cause egg pro­duc­tion is lim­ited’.

She and Mr Obama, 57, ‘had to do IVF’ if they wanted to have a fam­ily, she told ABC’s Good Morn­ing Amer­ica TV pro­gramme. She said they were try­ing for a fam­ily but it ‘wasn’t go­ing well’ and af­ter a mis­car­riage Mrs Obama even­tu­ally con­ceived daugh­ters Malia and Sasha, now 20 and 17, us­ing IVF.

Mrs Obama is pro­mot­ing her forth­com­ing me­moir. She and her hus­band earned an as­ton­ish­ing £50mil­lion ad­vance in a joint book deal. Mrs Obama said she wanted to use her book, Be­com­ing, to help other women deal­ing with the same prob­lems.

‘We sit in our own pain, think­ing that some­how we’re bro­ken,’ she said. ‘So, that’s one of the rea­sons why it’s im­por­tant to talk to young mothers about the fact that mis­car­riages hap­pen.

‘It’s the worst thing we do to each other as women – not share the truth about our bod­ies and how they work and how they don’t work.’

She said she also wanted oth­ers to un­der­stand that even the fa­mously lovey-dovey Oba­mas have had to work on their mar­riage. ‘I know too many young cou­ples who strug­gle and think some­how, there’s some­thing wrong with them,’ she said.

‘I want them to know that Michelle and Barack Obama – who have a phe­nom­e­nal mar­riage and who love each other – we work on our mar­riage and we get help with our mar­riage when we need it.’

Her hus­band has avoided get­ting too per­sonal about his White House suc­ces­sor but Mrs Obama does not hide her anger at Don­ald Trump in her book.

She said she will ‘never for­give him’ for putting her fam­ily at risk by stir­ring up ex­trem­ists when he ques­tioned whether Mr Obama was a gen­uine US ci­ti­zen.

She de­scribed Mr Trump’s be­hav­iour as big­oted and dan­ger­ous and said it was ‘de­lib­er­ately meant to stir up the wingnuts and kooks’.

She was gen­uinely scared for her chil­dren’s safety, she went on.

‘What if some­one with an un­sta­ble mind loaded a gun and drove to Wash­ing­ton? What if that per­son went look­ing for our girls?’ her book says. ‘Don­ald Trump, with his loud and reck­less in­nu­en­dos, was putting my fam­ily’s safety at risk. And for this I’d never for­give him.’

She said she was shocked at his vic­tory on elec­tion night and tried to ‘block it all out’. Mrs Obama ex­pressed dis­be­lief that so many women voted for a ‘misog­y­nist’ over Hil­lary Clin­ton in 2016. She said her body ‘buzzed with fury’ af­ter hear­ing the in­fa­mous tape record­ing in which Trump boasted of grop­ing women.

Pres­i­dent Trump re­sponded to Mrs Obama’s book, say­ing yes­ter­day: ‘She got paid a lot of money to write a book and they al­ways ex­pect a lit­tle con­tro­versy.’

The Oba­mas have said they will do­nate a ‘sig­nif­i­cant por­tion’ of their au­thor pro­ceeds to char­ity.

De­spite ru­mours she might run for pres­i­dent, Mrs Obama re­it­er­ates in her book that pol­i­tics isn’t for her. ‘I’ve never been a fan of pol­i­tics, and my ex­pe­ri­ence over the last ten years has done lit­tle to change that,’ she said. ‘I con­tinue to be put off by the nas­ti­ness.’

‘We get help with our mar­riage’

‘Had to do IVF’: The Oba­mas with Malia, left, and Sasha plus pets Bo and Sunny in 2015

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