It’s not that hard — just get some dye

DOM SAYS:

First things first, you are most definitely not alone. From what i’ve seen of home haircuts on video chat app Houseparty, i think we’re all starting to look slightly dodgy. Most of us have let ourselves go a bit and even gym bunnies have been unable to exercise as much.

so you’re among friends in that there’s a little bit of work to be done on most of us. And the practicalities are not too tricky. You can buy hair dye from the chemist and there’s nothing wrong with unpolished nails.

it strikes me that the far bigger issue is that of confidence — specifically with regard to your weight. Everything else is quite quickly sorted.

the first thing to say is that i’d be surprised if your chap didn’t expect to see a few extra curves when you meet up. Perhaps he’s piled on a bit of timber, too.

the thing to do is sow the seeds in his mind. tell him you miss the gym and your hairdresser and the nail salon. Let him know you’re railing against your roots. Doubtless, he will be longing for his barber, too.

And when it comes to weight, blame the Government! they wouldn’t let you out more than once a day — and how much could you really do in one hour? Clearly not enough for you to feel content, and i think that’s the main point.

this is about you not being happy with what you see in the mirror right now. And you must work on your own feelings about that. Unless he is terribly shallow (in which case you will be well rid of him), this is not about him, it’s about you. You must stop worrying about what he will think. Everything has changed. it is understood that women cannot go to the hairdressers right now. (For the record, it is understood that all hair continues to grow.)

this will be a good test. if his interest is only skin deep, it may evaporate at the sight of an unruly eyebrow. Why would you give someone like that any power over how you feel? But if his interest is real, he will be delighted to see you and probably won’t even notice.

so calm down, chill out. We men really don’t care that much about women being ‘groomed’.

He’s not interested in you because your nails are perfect or your weight is ideal. He is interested in you for you. Be who you are, be proud and stand up for yourself. Have confidence in yourself and your loveliness. And most of all? Enjoy that date!