You’re not going - and neither is he

STEPH SAYS:

I caN see this is an explosive issue and I understand why. I’m just sorry you’re at loggerheads about it. Personally, this is not something I would take lightly.

I understand why your husband is being so stubborn. We are all desperate for this coronavirus nightmare to be over and he’s clearly had his heart set on this holiday. as he says, it’s been keeping him going.

But I’m afraid he has to get over his fury and recognise that this is bigger than a summer holiday, bigger than sangria and sand between the toes.

Fingers crossed, you may have the opportunity to travel again in the future but, if you risk it this time around, you may not.

We all have to look at the bigger picture at the moment. We must also think about other people, because the decision you make now doesn’t just affect you, it affects the person you brush past in the street — or in the airport for that matter.

But back to you as a couple. If you capitulated and said yes, and you went and wrapped yourself in bubble wrap and tried to be as safe as you could, you’d have a miserable time.

It will be a gruelling, anxious experience you’ll want to get over with as quickly as possible. You won’t be happy about being there — and he’ll be grumpy because you’re unhappy.

So my advice is, firstly, to get your flight tickets refunded. then, I think you should be strong. Sit down and tell him you know he’s disappointed and you understand; that you hear him and you’ve thought it all through. It’s important for him