The one lesson I’ve learned from life

Presenter John Stapleton

JOHN STAPLETON, 74, is best known for presenting breakfast television for Tv-am, GMTV and Daybreak. he was married to scottish tv presenter Lynn Faulds Wood for 43 years. she died, aged 72, after a stroke in April.

DON’T LET IMPOSTOR SYNDROME WIN

I was lucky enough to survive in television for 45 years, but I went through my entire career thinking they’d find me out one day. I left school when I was 17 and started working at a local newspaper in North-west England before I moved on to Fleet street.

I lived a life of almost perpetual anxiety when it came to my career, and it’s one of the reasons why I stopped.

a lot of it stemmed from being a working- class lad from the North of England who didn’t go to university and was surrounded by extremely clever people — particularly in television. You could say Impostor syndrome is a good name for it in a way, and I prepared for things studiously to try to compensate.

I had raw ambition early on in my career, but once I entered my 50s I became less driven. My wife Lynn was terribly supportive and she would tell me, ‘Come on — you’ve done this, you’ve done that — you can go for it!’, but I was riddled with self-doubt.

Lynn had Aps [antiphospholipid syndrome, an immune-system disorder] for four years and we knew there was a possibility it could cause her death. But she’d managed it so well, we just didn’t think it would happen. I remember standing outside the hospital in glorious april sunshine just after she’d died earlier this year and it all seeming surreal.

Lynn used to say I regarded work as being more important than our relationship, and that wasn’t true, but I can understand why she said it. If I could achieve half as much as she did in my life, I’d be satisfied.

Once I established myself and achieved the things I’d set out to do, I became more relaxed and confident in myself, but that shred of doubt was permanently rooted in the back of my mind.

On the other hand, I do feel a bit of anxiety is good, because if you’re overconfident that will show as well.

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