How I beat burnout ...and you can too
It’s a modern malaise so many women suffer from, especially in these anxious times. Here one top businesswoman left bedridden by it for three years reveals...
OnE moment I was with a friend, admiring the dappled sunlight in london’s Hyde Park, the next my head was spinning, my knees had given way and I collapsed to the ground. lying on the floor in a public place, unable to get up unaided, was not only embarrassing but also incredibly nerveracking. nothing like that had ever happened to me before.
I called a taxi to take me home, where I climbed into bed, hoping a good night’s sleep would make me feel normal again.
But it didn’t. Over the next few months, I was paralysed with exhaustion. To the extent that from March 2014, I would go on to spend three years in bed.
I slept and slept, but no amount of sleep made me feel better.
I couldn’t do anything. Even brushing my teeth was a huge effort and going to the loo an exhausting task.
At my worst, I struggled to lift my head off the pillow for a glass of water. My social life went out the window and I couldn’t exercise — I could barely even shower.
But while my body couldn’t move, my mind was in overdrive wondering what on earth was wrong with me.
days, weeks and months went by with no progress.
lying in bed day after day, all alone, I found myself in a really dark place. I often howled out in despair, crying at how miserable I was.
I remember constantly comparing my life to others who seemed to have it all going for them. I was 31 and trapped in bed like a waste of space.
As I lay there, the frustration started to build inside. I could feel the anger in my blood.
Eventually, my thoughts turned so dark I didn’t want to be alive any more. I seriously considered ending it all a few times. I went for some therapy sessions, which helped me to manage my thought processes.
desperate, I also went to the doctor
and had a series of blood tests, all of which came back normal.
I was offered antidepressants but, as a qualified nutritionist with a diploma in nutritional therapy, I knew that it wasn’t depression.
I sought further testing privately and discovered I had a debilitating case of burnout, also known as adrenal fatigue.
Burnout is the culmination of years of running yourself ragged. I missed all the warning signs: waking up after a good night’s sleep still feeling tired, dragging myself through the day, energy slumps in the afternoon, feelings of dizziness, lacking motivation to finish the smallest of tasks.
If this sounds familiar, that’s because we’re living in an age of burnout — and our collective exhaustion is only exacerbated by the Covid pandemic and the lockdowns and restrictions we continue to face.
Not only are many of us required to juggle work with home-schooling, but there are also serious financial concerns, along with the heightened anxiety about our health and that of our loved ones.
Name one person you know who isn’t stressed or tired right now?
According to the latest Labour Force Survey, 17.9 million working days were lost because of work-related stress, depression or anxiety in 2019/20. This amounts to 55 per cent of all working days lost owing to work-related ill health.
It’s so widespread that, in 2019, the World Health Organisation (WHO) included burnout in its International Classification of Diseases for the first time.
FROM the minute we wake up in the morning, to the moment we go to sleep at night, we are bombarded left, right and centre by multiple stimuli. Be they work demands, relationships, elderly relatives and/or children.
And now there’s the stress of Lockdown 3. When all of these add up, it’s almost impossible to switch off.
But there is a way out. Since my recovery, I’ve coached thousands of men and women to beat burnout by boosting their energy. I’ve worked with top companies including Vodafone, ITV and Warner music Group to help improve the mental and physical health of their staff.
Before my collapse, my life was pretty good. I set up my business, miss Nutritionist, in 2010, treating both corporate and private clients. I also developed my first line of food products, a range of protein bars. running two businesses was intense. I had little sleep and my diet went out the window.
At the same time, my fiancé of f our years moved to a different country for his work, which put a huge strain on us.
I was meant to move with him but was reluctant to leave the businesses I had worked so hard to build up. Inevitably, our relationship fell apart.
We had been together for a decade and the break- up was far more draining than I had expected. I had to move out of our home, find temporary accommodation and become completely independent overnight.
I said yes to every work opportunity going and didn’t sleep because I felt such a huge sense of responsibility to keep everything together.
Emotional stress has more of an impact on your adrenal glands ( where t he stress hormone cortisol is produced) than physical stress such as running for a train or exercising. But I was doing too much of the latter, too, going to the gym four to five times a week.
Despite knowing better, I was making poor food choices and living off chocolate and green tea. It’s no wonder my body finally gave in and refused to keep going.
When the doctor prescribed antidepressants, I burst into tears and told her: ‘But I’m not depressed, I’m exhausted!’ I walked home, feeling helpless and retreated to bed.
MONTHS went by and I still didn’t feel any better. As I lay there in bed, the frustration started to build inside. I knew something was wrong and I had to get to the bottom of it.
Desperate to feel better, I started to look for answers myself. I got out my laptop, scoured my nutrition books and did a series of saliva tests to measure levels of the stress hormone cortisol. I also went to see a reflexologist and consulted a naturopathic doctor about natural remedies.
Finally, I ran one more test just to be absolutely sure: a hair mineral analysis. Using a sample of your hair, this test measures nutrient deficiencies in your body, as well as heavy metal toxicity.
It showed my sodium and potassium levels were very low and I had high levels of mercury in my tissues. These findings are common in people with a history of too much stress.
my findings all pointed to the same thing — I had driven my body to the point of burnout.
There is no quick fix once you reach this stage. The first year, my body forced me to slow down dramatically.
I battled to run my businesses from my bed but my productivity was reduced to about four hours a day. Fortunately, I had the help of a few interns, whom I relied on to be my arms and legs — they ran errands and sent emails.
I slept most afternoons and there were many days when I just couldn’t move. I simply lay in bed all day in tears, engulfed by feelings of helplessness.
During that first year, I felt so alone. I didn’t tell my parents,