Sex matters

Our new house has killed our sex life. The stress of paying a huge mortgage coupled with unexpected bills has crushed all passion for each other. I’d always dreamed of living in a rambling pile and thought I’d made it when we moved here. But now my husband is in one of our five bedrooms while I’m in another. We were so much happier squashed together in our tiny flat. Why didn’t I appreciate what we had?

You’ve got to start talking to your husband about how you feel. If things aren’t working out in your new environment, then what changes can be made? Can you rearrange the rooms? Alternatively, do you need to admit defeat, sell up and start again? He has to hear that you love and miss him very much, and that you never meant for things to end up this way. You bought your new house with enthusiasm, but you cannot allow a wrong turn to destroy your relationship.