Ask Anne Wife needs to Her parents know we’ve be told she’s a secret snorer been using their bed Q

Anne says: Time for you to be especially sensitive because your dear wife may have no inkling that she snores. Even though it is common, our society forgives snoring in men but we feel it is somehow unfeminine and definitely not sexy in women!

But she needs to know, since it can be a sign of something that needs urgent attention – such as obstructive sleep apnoea, a heart condition, diabetes or a sinus infection. Get her to discuss it with your GP. Yes, it’s that important. Find out more at all of my personal things. In fact, I’d be furious.

So there are two distinct concerns to address, and you will have to embark on a long, slow, campaign to earn their trust. It is not going to be easy but you must start as soon as possible.

Your girlfriend clearly has to kick things off by getting her mum and dad to understand that’s she’s now a grown-up and that she wants to have adult relationships, that she is practising safe sex (make sure you are) and that you are a nice guy.

But she herself must understand that, the way they see it, she let a stranger come and live in their home behind their backs, even allowing him to desecrate their own bed. If you can, ask to see them face-to-face to apologise and to “own” the hurt and the upset you have caused them. You should also offer to do whatever it takes to earn back their trust.

Take them flowers! Be the old-fashioned penitent boyfriend they want to see.

And if the ice doesn’t break straight away, don’t give up.

Every so often take flowers for them when you go to pick up your girlfriend, and make sure the two of you keep in their good books.

If they won’t hear you out, write them a lovely letter. And another, and another if necessary. Whatever you do, accept that you were in the wrong and don’t get angry with them – or you’ll be the bad guy for ever.