How can I fix my girl’s bro­ken heart?

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any­thing more than just hurt feel­ings – like preg­nancy. It’s vi­tal you break through the bar­rier of si­lence with your daugh­ter, and get her to talk.

If she still won’t, maybe you could use her lack of sleep as an ex­cuse to see your GP. She may open up to a doc­tor.

An­other av­enue is her school. See the head­teacher to find out if her school work is be­ing af­fected, and if there is a school coun­sel­lor who can help. And what about her friends? Per­haps there is one who you can ask to talk to her and get her out do­ing some­thing in­stead of stay­ing in­doors. It sounds trite but there’s noth­ing that lifts the spir­its as much as fresh air. Be­ing a good lis­tener is one of the best ways for you to mother her now but that’s hard if she won’t talk. When you try, here are a few help­ful point­ers. Re­mind her that we’ve all been where she is now. And don’t rub­bish the ex-boyfriend – that’s not what she wants to hear. But you should per­suade her to delete him from all so­cial me­dia, so she’s not fol­low­ing his every move or read­ing about his life with­out her. This is self-tor­ture.

And don’t say there are plenty more fish in the sea – even though you and I know there are! If months pass and she be­comes de­pressed then get her a good ther­a­pist. But I sus­pect the worst will be over in a few weeks.

Re­mind her that we’ve all been there and don’t rub­bish her ex – that’s not what she wants to hear

Grasp the net­tle. RSVP say­ing how happy you are for the cou­ple, and how much you would love to be there to share in their joy – but you feel un­able to come with­out your life part­ner. So, sadly, whilst you can­not be there, you are happy to send your love and (per­haps even a gift?). And if they feel able to in­vite in­clude your part­ner, then you’ll be there!

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