How can I fix my girl’s broken heart?
anything more than just hurt feelings – like pregnancy. It’s vital you break through the barrier of silence with your daughter, and get her to talk.
If she still won’t, maybe you could use her lack of sleep as an excuse to see your GP. She may open up to a doctor.
Another avenue is her school. See the headteacher to find out if her school work is being affected, and if there is a school counsellor who can help. And what about her friends? Perhaps there is one who you can ask to talk to her and get her out doing something instead of staying indoors. It sounds trite but there’s nothing that lifts the spirits as much as fresh air. Being a good listener is one of the best ways for you to mother her now but that’s hard if she won’t talk. When you try, here are a few helpful pointers. Remind her that we’ve all been where she is now. And don’t rubbish the ex-boyfriend – that’s not what she wants to hear. But you should persuade her to delete him from all social media, so she’s not following his every move or reading about his life without her. This is self-torture.
And don’t say there are plenty more fish in the sea – even though you and I know there are! If months pass and she becomes depressed then get her a good therapist. But I suspect the worst will be over in a few weeks.
Remind her that we’ve all been there and don’t rubbish her ex – that’s not what she wants to hear
Grasp the nettle. RSVP saying how happy you are for the couple, and how much you would love to be there to share in their joy – but you feel unable to come without your life partner. So, sadly, whilst you cannot be there, you are happy to send your love and (perhaps even a gift?). And if they feel able to invite include your partner, then you’ll be there!