He prefers video games to me and our children

may be using the computer as an easy escape. It’s interesting he stresses he is not going out with mates, like some men do. But why? Does he not have friends?

He should spend time socialising, as should you. You have become trapped in the worst bits of a marriage, and have lost the best bits.

He is working all day and gaming at night with no social life. You are washing, feeding and clearing up all day and then cooking for him at night, again with no social life.

This is no life – and there’s very little future in it. Such a breakdown in human communication and family warmth can only end in tears. If you can, sit him down and talk it through. He must see that neither of you are particularly happy. If you could change your routine for just an evening or two a week that would be a great start. What about booking a babysitter for just one night and getting him out for dinner? Or just going down to the pub?

I know you may feel too exhausted to make the effort but if you don’t, no one will.

Also, you should stress that the kids need time with him. Could he not promise a weekend afternoon to do something as a family? His sluggish pattern of behaviour is turning you into a drudge. You both deserve better.

This is no life and there is very little future in it. His behaviour has turned you into a drudge

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