‘Fat’ jibe misery of girl age 10

behind at work, or is even up late at night on the computer, you’re going to assume he’s cheating in some way.

So you simply have to confront it, so that you can both talk it through and figure out where you both stand. Look, you read those pages because they were on screen – you didn’t deliberately hack into his account.

You had no reason to be suspicious, but now you are!

Even if he protests that his dodgy conversations with women are just sexy online banter (cybersex, if you like), that they are not real nor meaningful, I think it is a sort of cheating because he is seeking his thrills away from you – in secret. It is

There may be nothing in his seedy chats but you must confront him, find out where you stand...

It sounds like you are a great parent and she’s a healthy girl. So you need to find out why she is picked on. See her teachers, explain the impact it’s having and ask bluntly if they think she’s overweight (just in case you cannot see it). Also ask if the school can address body differences and the importance of kindness. Talk to your girl about her happiness, build her confidence by praising her for what she is good at. If she’s not fat, but still thinks she is, you need to nip it in the bud so it doesn’t turn into an eating disorder. Visit your GP and start the discussion now.

anne.diamond@sundaymirror.co.uk

This hurts and it will take time to get over. You feel a sense of injustice that your ex couldn’t even explain why. But you must put him firmly where he belongs – in your past.And don’t be ashamed. Feeling upset, depressed and let down is all part of the healing process, but it does get easier. If you can’t cope, see your GP and ask for counselling.A break-up is painful, but it’s important to have other distractions in your life to keep you busy. a deception. And now you know he has also hurt you and put your marriage at risk.So don’t let him try to laugh it off. He may also try to say you’re lucky because his cybersex prevents him from cheating with a real person.Only you can judge whether those arguments convince you. The bigger issue now is trust.Having seen what he gets up to online, can you trust him when he says it goes no further? If he vows to stop, can you believe he will?If you can’t work it out together, then try relationship counselling. Visit relate.org.uk for information.