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Whether you’re the chief caregiver for your children, the breadwinne­r or both, everyone has an important role to play in the family.

As a result, it’s vital to respect each other as equals.

Vanessa says we should “pin this message to the fridge” and try to support each other as much as possible.

“If one party is exhausted, then do not tell them it is their job or role, or it’s ‘tough’,” she says. “Try to ease the burden by helping.

“It is not just the province of women to cook, clean and deal with the children and, in addition, do all their work from home.”

Living and working in one place might mean you pay more attention to missed spots of dust or dirt. But don’t complain – just clean it yourself.

Vanessa says: “Condescend­ing or underminin­g remarks when people are under stress is an absolute no-go area.

“Try the opposite instead. Show appreciati­on for what they are doing or have done, and help where you can. Don’t wait to be asked, just do it.”

Although children are rarely seen outside their bedrooms during daylight hours, a mixture of stress and hormones is bound to cause arguments when spending extended time together. Because of this, make sure you set out a rota of chores for them to do.

Vanessa says: “Do not allow children to dictate the agenda to you, or invite all of their friends round to put you at maximum risk.

“There is a lockdown and they have to understand

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