To take the children along or not... that’s the

WHETHER to take your kids to a wedding or not is a dilemma I increasingly find myself in these days.

I’ve reached an age when, if a friend is marrying, it’s not usually their first time. Which means their own kids will be at the happy event and want others there too. This is lovely, obviously.

Except, if you’re used to the demands of three children like I am, when a wedding invitation pops through your door, the first thing you think is: ‘YES! A night off!’

It’s the perfect excuse to let your hair down, have a few You can still have fun at a wedding with the kids in tow glasses of fizz and do your best mum dancing.

Of course, you can technically do all that if your children are there too, but their presence comes with certain risks.

If they’re very little, the ceremony is a tense affair; you’ll spend it second-guessing at which point your child will leap up and bellow: ‘I NEED A POO’.

Afterwards, forget about catching up with friends; you’ll be the one wiping noses and changing nappies, or cursing that Coast dress, the one with absolutely no breastfeeding outlet no matter how much your screaming baby wrestles with it.

By the end of the night, you might be one of those lucky few whose small child will sleep in a pushchair even if there’s a rave going on around them. But it’s more likely that you’ll have to work in shifts with your other