Being there through baby loss
miscarriage – around 250,000 in the UK per year.
Miscarriage most commonly occurs during the first trimester but can happen at any stage during the first 24 weeks of pregnancy, after which it is known as stillbirth.
Each year more than 3,000 babies in the UK are stillborn and over a further 2,500 die during the first year of life.
Baby loss at any stage is often deeply distressing and has a lasting and far-reaching impact.
Psychological effects may include depression, anger, sleep disturbances, post-traumatic stress, relationship issues and increased anxiety during any subsequent pregnancies.
There’s no right or wrong way to feel following a bereavement and each person’s experience of grief after losing a baby will be different.
In terms of supporting people through baby loss, those affected often say they value kindness, compassion, understanding and access to reliable imformation and emotional support.
We can all play a small part by reaching out to those who have been affected by baby loss. In the early days following a loss, small, practical things like keeping the fridge stocked, preparing meals and running errands for the bereaved family can make a big difference.
Going forward, don’t be afraid to check in and ask how they are doing.
Follow their lead, be patient and be there to listen without judgment, if and when they are ready to talk.
See miscarriageassociation.org.uk or sands.org.uk for further information about baby loss.