Losing our we felt like
A COUPLE who lost their baby at 12 weeks have raised concerns about the lack of support and compassion they received during the emotional experience.
Alisar Hassanyeh fell pregnant in October 2018 and, after reaching three months, she and partner Dan Murphy started to get excited about preparing for their little one’s arrival.
A few days later, Alisar started to bleed, so the couple rushed to A&E at Queen Elizabeth Hospital in Gateshead.
As this occurred on a Saturday night, the Cramlington couple say they were surrounded by intoxicated people while going through a traumatic time.
Alisar explains: “I was bleeding heavily and I was sat in pain and crying in the middle of the A & E next to people who were drunk and staring at me.
“We knew what was happening and it was so traumatic. The whole thing was horrendous and we felt like there was no compassion.”
The couple said that, after a long wait, they were seen and were told to return the next day to go to the antinatal clinic.
The following day the childhood sweethearts said they were sitting in the anti-natal clinic waiting for their scan, surrounded by happy newly pregnant parents while they knew that they were losing their baby.
Dan, 42, said: “It was just heartbreaking. We feel like it was the most insensitive thing to do, for us to be sat while losing a baby surrounded by parents who had just received great news. There should have been a separate area for us to go to.”
The couple said their nightmare continued after they were asked if a student would be able to come into the room to observe the scan.
To the couple’s surprise, four students came into the room and were all there to hear the consultant inform the couple they had lost their baby.
As the tragic news was confirmed, the couple’s consultant pointed to the screen, explaining to the students where the baby should have been on the scan.
Alisar claims she was horrified at the lack of compassion she faced. The 41-year-old said: “I felt so uncomfortable. She didn’t turn the screen away from me and she was just pointing out that nothing was there and where the baby should have been.
“I was lying there after hearing I had lost our baby while this was all going on. I thought to myself ‘I’m not just another teaching product.’ Noone should ever have to go through that and feel that way after losing a baby.”
The couple say they were then sent home while Alisar was still in pain and bleeding heavily, on the advice that she should go home to rest and