I gave my nine-year-old a smartphone – here’s why

Lally Maria

When Sarah Janes’s daughter asked for a smartphone at the tender age of six, the mother of one pushed back with some force. As an IT expert, she was well aware of a phone’s addictive qualities and the harmful impact a device could have on a young person’s mood, sleeping patterns and brain development.

“Even adults have a hard time peeling themselves away from their phones, and I know from studies that that problem applies to children even more,” she says now. “I also wanted her to be playing outside, getting fresh air, and moving around, rather than being sedentary and staring at a screen.”

However, three years later, when her daughter was still only nine, Janes finally relented. Her change of heart came after her daughter started walking the short distance to school on her own. “We wanted to be able to contact her, have her be able to contact us, and track her whereabouts too,” she explains. There was also significant peer pressure. “All her friends were getting phones,” Janes adds.

She is not the only parent who has been battered into submission. A report, published yesterday, shows that the number of primary school pupils who own a smartphone has soared in the past year. Research by the technology regulator Ofcom found a quarter of children under seven now have their own phone – up from about a fifth last year – and 59 per cent of eight to 11-year-olds own the devices.

The survey also found that children were routinely bypassing age checks to access social media apps such as WhatsApp, TikTok and Instagram, despite the apps supposedly insisting on a minimum age of 13.

But Janes says there was a more innocent reason for her own daughter’s original request for a phone.

“When she asked me for one aged six, I asked her why she wanted it and

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Janes admits her eventual decision to give her daughter a device followed “a lot of nagging”, but points out that the phone has a host of parental controls. “Her apps have to be approved by us, and she has time limits.”

Nevertheless, Ofcom says that its report should be a “wake up call” for the industry to do more to protect children. It follows the announcement of plans by the Government to ban under-16s from buying mobile phones and the publication of new guidelines, issued to schools in February, to help head teachers implement restrictions

‘Like a child dressing up in her mum’s shoes, she wanted a phone to show us she was growing up’

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Emma says what started out as a way for her daughters to speak to their father regularly, and practise their school spellings on a spelling app, soon led to them watching endless YouTube videos. Then, when their peers began getting their own phones (“typically at eight or nine”, says Emma), they began downloading apps like TikTok and Snapchat.

“Now they just scroll through videos on social media and call each other endlessly,” she says. “Their phones are the bane of my life and I hate them. But there’s no way back.”

This peer pressure is something that led mother of two Daisy Greenwell and her friend Clare Fernyhough to launch the campaign Parents United for a Smartphone Free Childhood, which encourages parents to form class WhatsApp support groups where they all agree not to normalise giving very young children phones. The idea came to Daisy earlier this year when she was having coffee with a mother who was discussing getting her eight-year-old a smartphone.

“The Ofcom figures are pretty shocking, because phone use is only getting younger,” says Daisy, who is pushing for social media apps to raise their age limit from 13 to 16. “But while it’s easy to say, ‘Look at these silly parents’, what we hear from our community of parents is they want clear guidance on smartphone use. But there is nothing from governments, nothing from the NHS, and so parents are finding their own way. It’s a systemic problem that needs a systemic solution. We can all see there’s a massive problem, and something needs to be done about it.”

A quarter of under-sevens now own a phone.

talks to parents who have given in to Big Tech