7 STEPS TO RECOVERING AFTER AN AFFAIR

1 Disbelief

You will be in shock, even if you were the unfaithful one. The walls between different parts of your life have collapsed and you must face reality.

2 Questioning

You stay up half the night trying to make sense of what happened and why.

3 Decisions

Only when you have all the information, can you decide whether to stay or go – don’t be pressured into doing this too soon.

4 Hope

It seems like there might be a way forward, but it feels fragile.

5 Attempted normality

You want to believe the crisis is over but feel like you’re putting on an act.

6 Bodies float to the surface

Long-term issues – for example, you dislike his mother – become urgent. There are no longer any “off-limits” topics.

7 Learning

Communicate better and you could turn infidelity from the worst thing that’s happened to your marriage into one of the best.