Linda Blair

Are you too busy to be mindful?

Think your life is too busy to be mindful? Well, today’s a bank holiday, so there are no excuses for not giving it a go. And there are good reasons why you should.

Since the early Eighties, when Jon Kabat-zinn demonstrated its relieving properties for patients who endure severe chronic pain, mindfulness – a discipline that helps you achieve fully-focussed intentional, non-judgmental awareness of the present moment – has been applied in a vast range of settings.

Mark Williams and colleagues at Cambridge taught patients suffering from recurring bouts of depression to use MBCT (short for “Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy for Depression”), and found their chance of relapse was significantly reduced.

Paul Grossman at the Freiburg Institute for Mindfulness Research concluded that mindfulness can help relieve symptoms across a wide range of health problems, both mental and physiological.

Sarah Bowen at the University of Washington used mindfulness to help prevent relapse in adults recovering from substance abuse. It has also been shown to help parents with autistic children cope more adaptively with their child’s challenging behaviour.

Even Martin Seligman, who in his latest book The

Hope Circuit argues that the

key to happiness is having an optimistic view of the future rather than focusing on the present would have to accept that it’s impossible to be realistically optimistic about what lies ahead until you first take a calm, non-judgmental look at what’s happening right now.

Not only are the benefits of mindfulness obvious, the approach is also easy to learn. There will almost certainly be a course near you. In the rare circumstances where this isn’t the case, there’s always Mark Williams and Danny Penman’s excellent book, Mindfulness: A Practical Guide to Finding Peace in a Frantic World; or

my own, The Key to Calm.

Why then, even on a bank holiday, do so many of us believe it’s difficult to find time to be mindful? The fault lies with practitioners who teach mindfulness as a separate discipline, as something you must set aside time for. Most people find that daunting.

It’s much better instead to think of mindfulness as a way of being; of doing what you already do, but with focus and open-minded, non-judgmental awareness.

You can do that by starting each day feeling calm and balanced. As soon as you wake up, sit up in bed and breathe in through your nose slowly and evenly. Hold for as long as you comfortably can, then exhale slowly. Do 10 of these, concentrating exclusively on your breathing. This will only take two minutes. Yet by starting your day like this, later on you’ll find it easy to become aware of negative thoughts or anxious feelings. You can then rebalance by taking another 10 mindful breaths.

Once mindful breathing becomes an ingrained habit, you can use it anytime and anywhere. Then you really can live the life you want – only better.