Rebecca Humphries’s statement

‘I am not a victim’

Hello there,

My name is Rebecca Humphries and I am not a victim.

I wasn’t sure whether to respond to events from the past week, but I feel the narrative has missed a couple of crucial elements that I would like to clear up.

It’s incredibly good of Sean(n) and Katya to apologise in the media. I have received nothing, other than the support of my family, friends, and a host of strangers who all wanted to make sure I was OK.

What I have also kindly received are many offers to sell my side of the story, but I would prefer for it to be on my own terms.

The pictures were taken on October 3rd. It was my birthday.

I was alone at home when Sean texted at 10pm saying the two of them were going for one innocent drink.

We spoke and I told him, not for the first time, that his actions over the past three weeks had led me to believe something inappropriate was going on. He aggressively, and repeatedly, called me a psycho/nuts/ mental. As he has done countless times throughout our relationship when I’ve questioned his inappropriate, hurtful behaviour.

But – this whole business has served to remind me that I am a strong, capable person who is now free; and no victim. I have a voice and will use it by saying this to any woman out there who deep down feels worthless and trapped with a man they love:

Believe in yourself and your instincts. It’s more than lying. It’s controlling. Tell some very close friends who, if they’re anything like my wonderful network, will swoop in and take care of the logistics and of you.

It’s important also to recognise that in these situations, those who hold power over you are insecure and fragile, and their need for control comes from a place of vulnerability.

I think it certainly does in Sean’s case.

Despite everything, I hope he gets what he wants from this. I’m not sorry I took the cat, though.

Love, Rebecca