DEVELOPING COPING MECHANISMS IS KEY

Although a diagnosis of major depression requires a cluster of symptoms such as disturbed sleep or appetite and feelings of worthlessness, many of us suffer the two key symptoms – constant low mood, and loss of pleasure and interest in activities we used to enjoy.

Sadly, most who feel this way merely endure it because they consider it unworthy of attention. After all, it’s not “real” depression, is it? Maybe not, but it’s suffering nonetheless, as Michelle Obama was honest enough to admit.

What can you do to ease – and eventually heal – chronic lowgrade depression?

Acknowledge it: trying to hide mental distress is like trying to hide a brick by shoving it underneath a rug. The shape is still there, ready to trip you up.

Own it: see if you can figure out why you feel so low. The most common reason is a sense of helplessness that often goes with loss – of a loved one, job, financial security. You’ll only be able to start looking for solutions if you acknowledge your distress.

Stop comparing: two of the most pernicious aspects of modern society are the pressure to compare and the need to do better than others. Unfortunately, suffering exists on a level playing field – everyone’s suffering is for them the worst they know.

So don’t dismiss your distress as trivial compared with that of others. Instead, face it, share it, and find ways to alleviate it. You’ll not only feel better, you’ll find it better to help others.

Share it: I don’t mean broadcast your woes to all. Instead, set aside time to talk to a good friend or family member who’s likely to understand. Just talking about your problems will help you accept them and start feeling you can take back control. Other people may offer better ways of coping.

Allow time: we seem to have lost the gift of patience. Nowadays we’re expected to “get over it” almost immediately. But psychological healing takes time. Be as kind to yourself as you would to your best friend as you come to terms with your distress, and look to find joy and balance in your life once again.