I FINALLY LEFT MY CHEATING HUSBAND

When I was 40, I began divorce proceedings as my husband had left me and our three teenage children to live with another woman. Just as we were due to go to court, he begged me to take him back. I did so, but three months later I discovered that he was still seeing this woman. I felt betrayed, but could not face contacting my solicitor, who had warned me that my husband was a serial adulterer and wouldn’t change. Then last year, at the age of 75, I began divorce proceedings again after finding out that he had bought a house with another woman and was planning to split his time between the two of us. He has had numerous affairs, but this was a step too far. I am not looking back – I am happier living alone, free of suspicion. I should have done it sooner and that is my advice to other women. I am glad that you have made the decision to leave your philandering husband. It was brave of you at 75, but the right decision. If a man has one affair and is truly sorry, still loves his partner (and vice versa), keeps his promises never to betray her again and works hard at rebuilding her trust, then some marriages can survive – though thoughts of the affair will always hurt. But if a person has vowed to be faithful to their partner after having an affair and then broken that promise, they have blown their chances. Of course, children and financial complications can make it difficult to end a marriage – and even more so if you still have feelings for your husband or wife. At least you have done it now – looking forward, not backward, is an important and positive step.