Hear­ing my son call me Daddy was just amaz­ing

The Oban Times - - News - LOUISE GLEN lglen@oban­times.co.uk

CON­NEL man Billy Irv­ing re­sponded at length to a card sent to him by Oban Times chief re­porter Louise Glen.

Here is his re­ply in full. Hi Louise, Thank you for your lovely card and your sup­port, re­ally means so much to me and helps me to stay strong.

The sup­port we have had not just from the UK but all round the world has been to­tally amaz­ing and over­whelm­ing.

We re­ceive so many let­ters and parcels which is such a boost to our morale.

For me, all the sup­port and help is for my fam­ily too and that they are not alone.

I know my fi­ancée has been fight­ing non-stop since the be­gin­ning of this night­mare. Dur­ing this time she went through preg­nancy, mov­ing house, work­ing and rais­ing our now two-and-a-half-yearold son.

Say­ing that I am proud seems such an un­der­state­ment and doesn’t give Yvonne the credit she is due.

But I am so proud of Yvonne. Not only has she done all the fight­ing for me, but she has put up with my com­plain­ing and moan­ing, lis­ten­ing to me and ba­si­cally be­ing my rock.

Know­ing all we have been through for al­most four years now and Yvonne has stood by me. I just hope I can be the man, hus­band Yvonne de­serves.

My son Wil­liam is grow­ing up with­out his dad. Be­ing de­nied his dad be­cause the pow­ers that can end this to­tal mis­car­riage of jus­tice refuse to in­ter­vene, even af­ter ev­i­dence is clear we are in­no­cent. Also let­ters from lawyers and Hu­man Rights at Sea were given to the For­eign and Com­mon­wealth Of­fice on re­quest to prove vi­o­la­tions of hu­man rights, vi­o­la­tions of laws and il­le­gal de­ten­tions by In­dia in 2014, still, to date, FCO/ UK gov­ern­ment have done zero about our com­plaints. Let­ters from lawyers and HRS (three years on) and are still al­low­ing our hu­man rights to be bro­ken by In­dian author­i­ties.

This is the same coun­try and gov­ern­ment I served for 10 years in the army (which I am proud of serv­ing in), do­ing op­er­a­tional tours in North­ern Ireland/ Iraq and Afghanistan – those places where my gov­ern­ment sent me, where I was will­ing to give my life, where I have lost friends.

I did th­ese in the knowl­edge that UK gov­ern­ment would fight and pro­tect its cit­i­zens. I now know I was wrong.

I have begged for help, I have pro­vided proof of mis­car­riage of jus­tice/ laws, vi­o­la­tions of hu­man rights and yet the UK gov­ern­ment will not step up and fight for us. They have not once con­demned any of our mis­treat­ment or in­jus­tice.

I am sorry, I go off on a tan­gent when I speak about our gov­ern­ment. I get side­tracked from what I was try­ing to say.

My son Wil­liam grow­ing up with­out me, his fa­ther, breaks my heart.

When Yvonne and Wil­liam sur­prised me on my birth­day by vis­it­ing me here in prison it was out of this world.

As I walked down to the jailer’s of­fice (a guard came and said I had to see a jailer), I just got about 10 me­tres away and I heard: ‘Daddy!’ I looked up and there was Yvonne and Wil­liam shout­ing ‘Daddy’ as loud as he can.

The feel­ings/emo­tions I had can­not be de­scribed. It was the first time I heard Wil­liam speak. The first time I had been called daddy.

And to see the look on Yvonne’s face. Such a proud mum. It was just to­tally amaz­ing. I got to spend two hours with them in the five days they were al­lowed to see me.

I was scared Wil­liam wouldn’t bond with me or me to him but from the minute he shouted daddy my wor­ries van­ished. Wil­liam was and is amaz­ing. But be­ing cooped up in the jailer’s of­fice (which is about three-and-a-half me­tres square) other peo­ple in it, the heat was out­ra­geous (hottest month of the year, May).

I just wish we were not re­stricted and we could play, run about. In say­ing that, we did play hide and seek, ha ha.

Those two hours per day will al­ways stay with me, hear­ing Wil­liam talk, be­ing called ‘daddy’, hear­ing and see­ing Wil­liam laugh and best of all our big fam­ily cud­dle.

I’ve never been one for talk­ing about my feel­ings or emo­tions, but since this fi­asco I have opened up more.

My happy thoughts in here are 1. Get­ting to Yvonne and Wil­liam and be­ing a fam­ily, 2. Be­ing a dad to Wil­liam, 3. Mar­ry­ing Yvonne (when we can do it, I just can’t wait to call Yvonne my wife), 4. Be­ing sur­rounded by fam­ily and friends.

Four things that seem sim­ple and are free (well maybe not get­ting mar­ried that will cost, lol) also things I have taken for granted be­fore this fi­asco, by that I mean fam­ily and friends.

Other things that help me cope in here is draw­ing/paint­ing and mu­sic.

I have my chanter, penny whis­tle, har­mon­ica and the prison has an acoustic guitar.

I play the pipes but I just play about try­ing to teach the oth­ers.

I have writ­ten quite a few pipe tunes now (but I have a feel­ing some might be tunes I’ve known or heard since I was a boy, lol) and I have writ­ten three songs with guitar.

I wanted to share some things with you, feel free to put them in your story (if this gets to you on time). I do apol­o­gise for my writ­ing and spell­ing but I hope it is read­able. I am not the best at writ­ing let­ters.

If you can, can you please put a mas­sive thank you for ev­ery­one’s sup­port and help. It re­ally has helped me and my fam­ily so much.

If you have any ques­tions you’d like me to an­swer please, feel free to ask and I will do my best to an­swer them.

Thank you for your lovely card, it re­ally bright­ened my day. Mas­sive thank you to all at The Oban Times. Kind­est re­gards, Wil­liam (Billy) Irv­ing.

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