Car­ing San­dra’s brotherly love

The Peterborough Evening Telegraph - - Your News -

When San­dra Cross’s grief stricken brother be­gan to suf­fer health prob­lems fol­low­ing the sud­den death of his wife, and later his daugh­ter, she didn’t hes­i­tate to of­fer to care for him.

Roy Stocker (78) lost the powerofhisspeechand­abil­ity to write, and his mo­bil­ity was af­fected too as he be­gan fall­ing back­wards af­ter his wife Jo died within two months of be­ing di­ag­nosed with can­cer in­July2013. His­daugh­terJane (48), who cared for him ini­tially, died of can­cer too this July, leav­ing Roy all alone and strug­gling to cope.

San­dra (74), who has a heart prob­lem her­self and cares for hus­band John (78), who suf­fers from chronic ob­struc­tive pul­monary dis­ease ( COPD), im­me­di­ately sug­gested that he could stay with them in their static home in Eye for a break, even though space is tight.

That was two months ago - and Roy has stayed there ever since. He now plans to move from his home in Spald­ing and live next door to his kind hearted sis­ter, know­ing this will give them both peace of mind that she will still be able to care for him.

San­dra ad­mits that some­times she­feels ex­hausted, but plays it down, say­ing: “You have got to get on­topofit. Had the sit­u­a­tion been re­v­ersed, I know Jo would have done the same for us.”

She helps her brother wash, pro­vides his med­i­ca­tion, and, in Roy’s own words, “look­safter­me­like­ababy.” He also has a hia­tus her­nia near the heart, as well suf­fer­ing from ul­cer­ated col­i­tis.

San­dra con­tacted Car­ers Trust Pe­ter­bor­ough for sup­port fol­low­ing a rec­om­men­da­tion from their son, Calvin, and his wife Karen who knew about their work sup­port­ing fam­ily car­ers.

Sh­e­said:“WhenRoy­came to live withus, Calvin said that Car­ers Trust Pe­ter­bor­ough could help us­too. They­told us how they had been to Thorpe Hall andw­erevery im­pressed with what they saw.

“Chris­tine Ni­cholls, their Care Man­ager, came to visit, she came to see us three

From left to right, Roy Stocker, San­dra and John Cross.

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