The demise of ‘women’s work’: hen do’s verdict on sexism

Jim Duffy holds a hen do at his house and takes the chance to investigate sexist attitudes to household chores

Irecall my time in the Polis, when I must have met some of the most bigoted and sexist men I had ever come across.

Gladly, they were a minority. But they existed nonetheless and some of the ideas that spewed forth from their mouths did make me wonder what planet they were on.

One common phrase at the time – 20 years ago – referred to house work such as washing dishes, making beds, vacuuming, ironing, cleaning toilets and laundry etc. Some of my older colleagues called this “women’s work”.

I’m pretty sure that the politically correct police services we have now in the UK are a result of the dinosaurs I worked with at the time. The reaction to male-oriented canteen culture that pervaded the muster rooms at the time has come full circle I would guess. Perhaps some female police officers may beg to differ? But, looking back makes me think about “women’s work” these days and what has changed.

What a better way to understand this than to host a Hen Do at my house. In essence, they would form a ‘research group’ that I could put questions to about men, chores and 21st century attitudes. My findings were interesting and illuminating and not what I had expected at all.

It was agreed by my “respondents”, that women had the majority of home chores to do 20 years ago. Some of this was down to it simply being a norm, inherited from their mothers and grandmothers, while some of it was foisted upon them as a necessity due to their partners’ lack of interest in all things cleaning.

It seems women who brought up families while the men went out to work in the steelworks, dyeworks and mills, were more likely to doing the house chores. I believe the American up-to-date, progressive term for this genre of female is ‘homemaker’, albeit, my mum would have used the word “skivvy” at times.

But, does the homemaker of today choose to be so or do the chores get shared equally?

In between the karaoke and shots, I was able to interrogate my research group looking for empirical evidence as well as circumstantial, anecdotal tales. I found no-one in my sample to be anti-men as far as the chores were concerned.

It seems that men today who are in relationships and live with their female partners do not hold the same views as some of my old police colleagues. A big thumbs up for progress then. But, each relationship was different and not a carbon copy of the other.

Finding number one: It seems that if a man’s mother worked with him to show him how to complete the housework, then he was better and more productive in the home today.

Mothers who showed their sons and daughters how to use the washing machine, how to iron a shirt and how to clean a sink gave their offspring the tools necessary for living a better life. This schooling in domestics provided a solid platform for living alone and living with a partner.

So far so good. But, what about those men who were not shown the ropes?

Finding number two: Well, it seems that if yer mammy didn’t show you how to programme the washing machine and your daddy didn’t do much around the house, then you are likely to have suffered from that lack of parenting.

One respondent, who at the time was dancing to Michael Jackson’s Thriller while wearing a Russell Brand mask, was pretty clear on