The Scotsman

Keep­ing mem­o­ries of loved ones alive

- Lifestyle · Lifehacks

After some­one we love has passed away most of us try to find a way of keep­ing their mem­ory alive. This can vary from plant­ing a tree to nam­ing a star.

Here are a few of the op­tions that you may want to con­sider.

IN THE STARS For some, nam­ing a star after the loved one they have lost seems a fit­ting me­mo­rial. There are many star nam­ing web­sites for you to choose from on the in­ter­net.

Most of th­ese spe­cial­ist web­sites give you the choice of nam­ing a sin­gle star or a star in a con­stel­la­tion.

Once you have named your star, you will usu­ally re­ceive a cer­tifi­cate, star chart and co-or­di­nates to help you find it in the night’s sky.

BE­REAVE­MENT BOX Cre­at­ing a me­mo­rial keep­sake box is a com­fort­ing op­tion for many.

This box can be filled with spe­cial mem­o­ries you shared with your loved one: per­haps pho­to­graphs, a favourite piece of jew­ellery, cards and let­ters..

Me­mo­rial boxes are widely avail­able to buy and many spe­cial­ist web­sites also give the op­tion to per­son­alise the box, with a name or spe­cial verse, if you’d like.

Open the box when­ever you wish and pass it down to your chil­dren so that the mem­o­ries can live on.

RINGS AND THINGS An item of jew­ellery can make a fit­ting keep­sake as most pieces can be worn at all times and many peo­ple say this helps them feel closer to the one they have lost.

Maybe you’ll choose a piece of jew­ellery from their own col­lec­tion or a per­son­alised piece en­graved with their name.

SAY­ING THANK YOU If your loved one was helped or sup­ported by a char­ity or hos­pice be­fore they passed away, mak­ing a fi­nan­cial do­na­tion can help you feel like you’re say­ing thank you and giv­ing some­thing back.

This could be a one-off do­na­tion or many of­fer the op­tion to do­nate a small monthly amount straight from your bank ac­count.

QUIET RE­FLEC­TION Many peo­ple who are go­ing through a be­reave­ment say they want some­where they can sit and re­flect about the one they’ve lost and re­live some of the mem­o­ries they made to­gether with­out be­ing dis­turbed.

Buy­ing a bench for your gar­den can be a com­fort­ing so­lu­tion. Me­mo­rial benches come in a va­ri­ety of price ranges, sizes and ma­te­ri­als.

THE TREE OF LIFE Why don’t you plant a tree, shrub or bush in mem­ory of your loved one and watch the mem­o­ries grow? Ever­green va­ri­eties are a good op­tion.

Some peo­ple find it help­ful to per­form a short cer­e­mony or say a few words about their spe­cial some­one while plant­ing. Per­haps in­vite fam­ily and friends to at­tend too.

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